@frankliwild about @kevinfriedman – a memory


Dear friends and other interesting creatures,

Surprisingly, seeing how wonderfully balanced and zen I am today, I did not grow up with a white picket fence.

The fence was painted blue and white.  About waist height and had rose bushes planted along the fence. On the bordering walls grew sweat peas. I loved the smell of my Oupa Mike and Ouma Chrissie’s garden.  It was full of beauty and love. 

I did not grow up with my parents, although they were involved in my life.  Well,  until I was 11 when my father died.  Then life changed but this isn’t about that.

Although our house had many bedrooms, I did not have my own room.  I had a box.  Ouma Chrissie prided herself on her very clean, neat home so at night I put all my toys,  books and Dolly Parton LP back in the box,  into the brown cupboard which kept her stuff for fixing buttons or stopped your toes peeping out your socks.  You would never have suspected a child lived in that house.

Ouma Chrissie,  looking back, had some co-dependancy issues. She often said the day I was born, was the happiest day of her life, so maybe she just wanted to keep me very close. I slept on a mattress on the floor next to her bed. I held her hand until I could hear her heavy breathing and she was asleep. Then I would look at the clock that never seemed to move. I’ve never slept well.

While I characterise these formative years as happy ones,  I guess deep inside me, it left some strange shaped boxes.  Stuff.  I am obsessed with my stuff.  I’m want to be clear what belongs to me,  what others are not allowed to touch.  Things I do not want to use in case they get “finished”. We not talking the good dinner service here.

There has been many such items in my life.  I will take it out.  Touch it… and then I put it away so it can’t “finish”. I don’t want it to “end”.

I am not sure where or how I met Kevin Friedman.  Besides that his intellect is admirable and chatting to him challenges my mind, Kevin is  often the best dressed man in the room. There is a sincerity about him,  a vulnerability.  Should I be reading Jane Austen,  we could say Mr Friedman is not of my station. He will laugh and dismiss that statement. :)

Kevin is an artist.  A jeweller with flair. Doubt there is much in his collection I could ever afford but he would never make you feel anything but welcome and at ease.

Our Mr Friedman makes exquisite pieces.  Earrings,  necklaces,  broaches – you name it. It is all very unconventional and delectable…. It makes me dream of flying to NYC in a private plane. (I seriously wouldn’t know what to do with myself. 😁)

For my birthday last year in June,  some friends and family came together at my favourite pizza restaurant. Everyone paid for themselves as a party was not in the budget.  I invited some people whom I know must have laughed at the pay as you go concept but (wealthy people’s opinions of me are not my reality),  I was so happy when Kevin came, purple dress code intact!

I always make a gift wishlist and it is never a Caribbean cruise.  A pedicure would be nice kinda thing.  I had made reference to an item Kevin had made and said I would love “something” like that on my birthday wish.

When I opened a gift with wrapping that looked like a gift in itself,  I looked at him and said you didn’t have to do that!  He laughed and said “… But it is what you wanted!”  I’m big on tears.

Well, my @frankliwild original by @kevinfriedman is a special gift.  I unwrap it carefully,  I touch it softly.  Sometimes a tear… could be ever so near… and then I pack it away so that it may never finish. 

Thank you Kevin for who you are.  That you proved that real friends don’t mind paying for their own pizza,  but more than that… You always pay attention to my details.

I treasure your gift, your genuine happy eyes when you see me and I thank you a gift that makes me feel enough!



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Rocking the 3am #Wenchytude


Dear friends and other interesting creatures,

The past week I’ve averaged three hours sleep a night.  It’s been exhausting but the days and evenings exciting. I don’t know how I made it through each day but I did, smiling for most of it.

My son Liam James came to visit for the first time in months. I enjoyed spending more than 5 minutes with him.  I felt sad that he had to leave.

Our geyser gave in the week before,  this week our downstairs flooded with a burst pipe in the wall behind a the bath.  Cold showers are underrated but then it is summer here and hot. @SirNoid and I each have our own bathroom and mine is affected, making me feel like I am camping.  lol 😁 Yes that is Diva behaviour…  #justsaying

I went to see a play, a premier of a movie,  attended a number of greatly successful business meetings,  did numerous costing exercises,  I attend two media briefings with multitude of celebrities,  I received a wonderful stat report unexpectedly that just made my day, did a corporate interview,  knitted for @67Blankets, worked on numerous social media accounts, visited The Saxon twice in one week, visited my mom and Tayla-Jade (my niece who had a heart attack at 17 very recently) for a short while, attended  a wedding with my daughter Victoria,  wrote for publication, played #ClashOfClans,  #HayDay and #CandyCrush when I couldn’t sleep,  wore actual business attire more than usual,  updated my purple hair,  went to the optometrist,  did some banking,  took a selfie with Mr. Mandela’s statue in broad daylight in Sandton Square… and still have 1 000 unread emails in my inbox and a mountain of admin that awaits.  Yikes!

I love “Suits”, but I cannot stand Lewis.  No amount of pity thrown his way,  ever makes me feel sorry for him.

My friend Melany introduced me to a special coffee many, many years ago, Enrista , the weak one. I love it. I decided to give it up after looking at the carb content. It has been one week. I miss my coffee,  my brand – but my weight loss has moved in the right direction. I MISS MY COFFEE.

My husband has been long suffering this week. (Trying to make it sound dramatic) He attended two events with me which is most unusual but made me happy.  On Monday evening we were at a cocktail function in Sandton. 20th floor.  It was spectacular! First the sunset and then the lights. Wow #Jozi!

By Friday evening…  I could not walk.  Ankolysing Spondylitis and Fibromyalgia kicked in.  My husband had to park my car.

I WANTED to spend the afternoon with my husband,  instead after I came back from The Norwood Niche Market and I promptly fell asleep.  He woke me up at 19h00 wanting me to still sleep tonight.

Included in the week was showing the next generation how to make a duck face…  Don’t say I don’t give back.  #Wenchytude

What are you looking to this coming week?

I wish you enough.
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The 11th season of @IdolsSA might feature a drag queen @ShenayOBrien !

Dear friends and other interesting creatures,

After reading this article in The Citizen, I knew I had to chat to my friend Shenay and hear all about the Idols experience! 1-shenay

Shenay, firstly thank you for making time for a Wench in your seriously busy schedule. Entering Idols Pop! It is fantastic that I can say ‘Hey I went to @Sterkinekor’s #girlfriendsgetaway with that girl and she was at my birthday party… and now she is winning golden tickets!’  

I am very proud of you for auditioning and facing the wrath of all who do not believe in fairies and glitter. I bet the other contestants were jealous of you rocking those killer heels!

I know that you love performing. Besides your talent, what do you hope to share with the greater public?

Shenay:  Being able to perform is such a blessing and a privilege and to share my talent with others – I couldn’t ask for anything more. But I want to show the public, that no matter how different you are, its more than okay, and just to be you IS enough! :)

When did you first put on a dress and feel the power of pouting lips? Was it frustrating or liberating?

Shenay: WOW, uhm … I think when I was still a in Primary School. I didn’t really understand “why I was different” and to be boxed and conditioned by society what THEY WANT you to be, and not what YOU WANT to be was extremely frustrating! But my first empowering moment came in 2009 – when someone approached me and said: “You have GUTS, and I admire you for that”. I was on cloud 9. It was then that I knew that I have the power to inspire others and to perform and enjoy what I do, whilst being able to help others is simply, remarkable! :)

A few quick questions just for fun!

1.    Song that cheers you right up?

Shenay: At the moment it has to be Ellie Goulding: Love me like you Do.

2.    Favourite movie and why?

Shenay: Saving Mr.Banks. Emma Thompson is phenomenal and again its the story of of hope , trust and taking risks!

3.    Mr Grey or Mr Darcy? Shenay: Neither! Haha Ooooohhhhhhh but definitely James Franco!

4.  Is there anything you would absolutely not eat?

Shenay: Mopanie Worms and Tripe!!

5. Do you share that feeling at the end of the day when you take your bra off and it is like “Sigh! Yes! Freedom!” … or is it just me?

Shenay: Oh YES! I think all woman do that at the end of the day, unless you are wearing Victoria Secret, then its a Hell-to-the-NO!!

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Wishing you enough for all those dreams to come true and as you always say “glitter kisses!

@nouveaubuzz #OscarBuzz See you at @RosebankMall!


Dear friends and other interesting creatures,

I have never seen all Oscar’s nominated movies in one year,  but this year it is on my bucket list to do do.  It will give watching the 87thAcademy Awards ceremony, hosted by Neil Patrick Harris, on Sunday, 22 February 2015 some extra glitter for me. Whoop!

In an effort to ensure that movie buffs have the opportunity to watch and evaluate all these films on their Oscar chances before the big night, Cinema Nouveau is pre-releasing four of the Oscar-nominated titles next week, each film for one screening only, from 16 – 19 February 2015 .

The four films lined up for the pre-screenings next week are: 

Whiplash on Monday, 16 February 2015 ;

The Theory of Everything on Tuesday, 17 February 2015 ;

American Sniper on Wednesday, 18 February 2015 , and;

Wild on Thursday, 19 February 2015. 

They will all be screened at 20:00 each evening, at the four Cinema Nouveau complexes around the country – Rosebank Mall in Johannesburg, Brooklyn Mall in Pretoria, Gateway in Durban, and V&A Waterfront in Cape Town.

As the countdown begins, Cinema Nouveau is inviting you to join in this year’s #OscarBuzz conversation.

Watch any of the Oscar-nominated films in the Best Picture and other categories, post your short, sharp and pithy review on the Cinema Nouveau Facebook or Twitter pages, using the hashtag #OscarBuzz, and you could be in line to win some great weekly prizes: 35 in total over the seven-week period.

The competition runs from this Friday, 16 January till 09 March 2015.

Each week, the winning reviews will be block-mounted and displayed in the foyers of the four Cinema Nouveau complexes in Johannesburg (Rosebank Mall), Pretoria (Brooklyn Mall), Durban (Gateway) and Cape Town (V&A Waterfront).

The author of the most popular review over the competition period will receive the grand prize:

Cinema Nouveau Reviewer of 2015.

The winner of this prestigious title will be selected by the Ster-Kinekor marketing team based on the best Oscar-nominated movie review posted on Facebook or Twitter using #OscarBuzz. 

The prize is a much sought after Ster-Kinekor Movie Premier Card that entitles the winner to watch films at any Cinema Nouveau or Ster-Kinekor cinema for free, for one year!

The Cinema Nouveau Reviewer of 2015 will also be a special guest at pre-release screenings of select titles and premieres hosted by South Africa’s leading cinema chain.

Over the next few weeks, Cinema Nouveau will release a number of the Oscar-nominated films. Eight films have been nominated for Best Picture, offering local movie-lovers a feast of the best of the best on the big screen at Cinema Nouveau and Ster-Kinekor cinemas.

They are:

·         American Sniper – releases on 20 February 2015

·         Birdman – released on 09 January 2015

·         Boyhood – released in 2014; rereleased and currently on circuit

·         Selma – released on 06 February 2015

·         The Grand Budapest Hotel – released in 2014

·         The Imitation Game – releases on 23 January 2015

·         The Theory of Everything – releases on27 February 2015

·         Whiplash – releases on 20 February 2015

Follow #OscarBuzz with Cinema Nouveau on Facebook – Cinema Nouveau, or on Twitter @nouveaubuzz.

 For information and to make bookings, download the Ster-Kinekor App (on any Nokia, Samsung Android, iPhone and Blackberry smart phone) to download the latest updates and news, and to book tickets from your handset.

Visit http://www.cinemanouveau.co.za or sterkinekor.mobi.

Follow on Twitter@nouveaubuzz and on Facebook at Cinema Nouveau. For information and queries, call Ticketline on 0861 Movies (668 437).

The full list of 2015 Oscar nominees can be found at: http://oscar.go.com/nominees

I wish you enough,

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#Tracers @mnetmovies @sterkinekor

Dear friends and other interesting creatures,

@SirNoid and I did our first movie screening this year being treated to a viewing of the action and adventure movie “Tracers” from the director Daniel Benmayor.

You can view the official trailer :  HERE


Think New York City – noise, alive with people, sounds and sights.

Bike messenger Cam (Taylor Lautner from the “The Twilight Saga”) crashes his bike into the gorgeous Nikki (Marie Avgeropoulos from the sci-fi series “The 100″) and is at once infatuated by her being well, gorgeous and has moves that you remind you of CatWoman, but on a smaller scale. Cam crashing into Nikki does not make him the world best bike rider however. #justsaying

Turns out Cam is in debt to the mafia, although I never quite figured out why …. and his attraction to Nikki’s opens Cam to the thrill of the world of a gang who pull off heists using parkour. Hoping to pay off his debt, Cam gets very involved with the gang who keeps digging deeper and jumping higher.

The movie has a PG13 rating and I would say the target audience is between 16 and 21. I found it light entertainment, an escape from reality … but the stunts were not all that impressive. The girl in me loved the ending and I did enjoy seeing Taylor Lautner is something other than Twighlight.

Wikipedia tells us that Parkour is a holistic training discipline using movement that developed from military obstacle course training. Practitioners aim to get from A to B in the most efficient way possible. This is done using only the human body and the surroundings for propulsion, with a focus on maintaining as much momentum as possible while still remaining safe.



I wish you enough and remember, you can never read enough books or see too many movies!



#banting wagon @RichSimmondsZA

Dear friends and other interesting creatures,

When contemplating starting anything new, it is imperative that you are informed. Please make sure you research, ask and feel content with your decision before you embark on something that will change your life, especially when it comes to changing the way you eat which impacts your health.


Banting as LCHF is called in South Africa, is NOT a quick fix. It is something you need to commit to for life.  You can’t go back to carbs. Naturally you will gain weight and your health will deteriorate.

☆ So you want to get on the banting wagon? Start with what is in your kitchen.

  • Get rid of all the ‘white’ food… bread, pasta, flour, potatoes, bottled and packet sauces, diet cooldrinks, tinned items and anything that says low fat or lite. Chuck out the sunflower oil, cornstarch, bread spreads, breakfast cereals, sweets,  cakes and sugar.
  • Replace it with real food. Eggs, meat, chicken, fish, tuna, salmon, bacon, nuts (peanuts are a legume and not a nut so avoid), full fat cheeses, full cream milk, plain Greek full cream yoghurt, spinach, cauliflower, mushrooms,  garlic, tomato, avo, peppers, onion, honey (occasionally) lettuce and butter.
  • Use olive oil, coconut oil, pink unprocessed salt, lemon and mint for water and cream for coffee. Use full cream milk in moderation as lactose is sugar and cream has less carbs than milk.
  • I was surprised how easily I gave up bread and potatoes. I do bake a banting friendly bread once every six weeks or so with nut flour, seeds, eggs and cottage cheese. (Recipe is on my Facebook page) We now have sweet potato on occasion which is lower in carbs with sour cream.

Check out the recommended food lists as per The Real Meal Revolution:  http://realmealrevolution.com/real-food-lists  Green is a go, orange with caution and red is ideally a no go.

I also have many tips, ideas and recipes on my banting Facebook page:  www.facebook.com/wenchybanting Would appreciate a like to my page.

  • In my 7 months of banting I have noticed that people tend to overdo the protein. Remember low carb,  high fat, NOT high protein. Meat portion can be judged by the size and thickness of your palm. Focus on keeping the carbs low (this can be difficult as carbs lurk everywhere including vegetables), avoid sugar (also challenging as even fruit contains sugar) and add butter and cream to everything!
  • I admit I find the drinks as recommended by Prof Tim Noakes very limiting. Water, coffee and tea.  The recommended sweeteners are Xylithol and Stevia. I prefer Xylithol. I drink cream in coffee but milk in tea. At most, I have 3 cups of coffee/tea a day. The rest is cold water water with ice and lemon and/or mint. Diet cooldrinks are not recommended because of how your body processes artificial sweeteners. Fruit juice is high in fructose (sugar) and should be avoided.
  • This is not a 3 meals a day with 2 snacks kind of eating. Eat when you are hungry and till you are full but be aware of portion size. It is not a buffet.
  • You can occasionally have 90% cocoa chocolate. I don’t love dark chocolate so I mainly reach for it come PMS days. In despiration you can also have Caring Candies which I have purchased at Dischem before. It is suitable for diabetics.
  • Some people do not tolerate Caring Candies well however and it may cause an upset stomach…. but then, some who have constipation,  especially in the first few weeks do eat Caring Candies for that very reason.
  • I find the best way is to not keep anything that is tempting in the house. If I don’t keep things that are trigger foods for me in the house,  I know chances are slim that I will especially go to buy them.  So I may eat something at an event but it doesn’t come home.
  • It is easy to become obsessed with the scale and it can totally ruin a great day. Many people have a substantial loss in the first few weeks which can be written off to water. It is much better to measure yourself regularly and weigh once a month at most.

Does that mean you will never have a slice of cake again? No. Eating the cake is your choice. It will spike your insulin and probably make your stomach upset but, it is your choice. I do from time to time eat something I should have skipped. Yes, it stalls weight loss but more so,  I feel physically unwell and off course your body will no longer be in ketosis. So you kinda start from scratch … again.

Now Google Ketosis.  :)

I wish you enough,

Don’t chuck your brain out with the bread. @ProfTimNoakes @loseitmag #banting #lchf

Dear friends and other interesting creatures,

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I’ve been following a LCHF (low carb high fat) way of eating for six months now with great results and benefits. In South Africa,  this is referred to as banting.

Having an online presence it would make sense that I belong to many Facebook groups on the topic as well as have a personal Facebook page where I post recipes or articles.

I have however witness how people appear to have lost the ability to think for themselves. On various forums, a post went round about ‘flat tummy water’. Believe me after six months you have drunk every conceivable way to drink water. The ‘flat tummy water’ is merely water you have flavoured with a few banting friendly items like lemon, cucumber etc. It is not going to make your tummy flat after losing 20kg or 50kg! You will, I believe, be exceptionally well hydrated however.

To me,  you have three options.

1. Exercise I am sure cardio and weights will be greatly beneficial but after numerous pregnancies and cream cakes I don’t think your skin is just going to retract and look like a FHM model in soft lighting.

2. Accept yourself as you are and forgive yourself for abusing the body you were given.  I’m still working on that!

3. Save for some plastic surgery and remove the skin. I always say ‘cut my stomach right off’.  Now,  I can admit that in the future I would love me some cosmetic surgery to take my breasts places they have never been and to remove the excess skin from my stomach…. (We have a hate/hate relationship) but doubt I would ever have enough money to do so.

It is one thing to need information about a subject you are not familiar with… I also understand the desperation but it is quite another to not THINK, use common sense,  research and make an informed decision.

Please.  Think. Repeat. Research. Repeat. Do this until you feel you can make an informed decision using knowledge and common sense.

Another thing… the first question people ask: “How much have you lost and how long did it take?”

You didn’t gain 50kg overnight and you not going to get rid of it (and have a flat stomach) by tomorrow morning.

I started on 30 June 2014 and I had lost 30kg… and gained 3kg in December 2014. Since I have lost 2kg. I’m good with that. Believe me I paid for the nonsense I ate in stomach ache and heartburn more than the scale can torture me.

Besides kg’s lost,  I have gained normal readings for blood pressure, thyroid, sugar,  cholesterol and less stomach ache…. for the first time in many years.

  • No,  I am far from perfect and while I do my best to cut out carbs and sugar,  I fall down plenty.  I will have birthday cake and carry on after.  I am not dead, nor angel Gabriel.
  • I’ve lost many more cm’s than kg’s. I fit into clothing I had before my eldest son was born 21 years ago.  I don’t know why and I don’t really care.  :) I am still however an overweight Wench with another 30kg to go.
  • No,  I don’t exercise.  I should,  and yes I am lazy. Yes,  it would be much better if I did.
  • I do not have a goal weight.  I will know when I get there.
  • Yes my husband is proud of me. He has also joined in and stopped drinking 2l of Coke a day and I am HUGELY proud of him.

Don’t be a sheep and definitely draw the line at goats!

Rant over.

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