I know why the caged bird sings.

Dear friends and other interesting creatures,


Behind this Wenchy who rose again are an army of kids who sometimes literally picked her off the floor…

… a close group of friends and family who supported, loved, laughed, cried and faithfully promised to bury those who trespass against her in an apple orchard.

Most importantly, a life filled with people who humbly recognise their own humility, forgave her as they hope to be forgiven for the silly things they do,  keeping no record of wrongs, and provided comfort to her …. eventually a man came who gave her hope again… on a mountain top where you could see forever.

…. and a God who holds it all in the palm of his hand.


I wish I could say I don’t depend on anyone,  but that not true and not who I am.

I depend on dozens for countless many different things, on so many levels and in layers. Emotionally, practically, physically,  mentally,  financially and psychologically.

I’ll never walk alone, which means you will never walk alone.

I wish you enough,

Tonight our hearts drown the distant drums

Dear friends and other interesting creatures,

I listen to the things my many children, husband and friends speak about, the way they see the world and experience the people beside them….and I reflect on my own long and cobbled stone road.

The universal pull is that people want to be loved, wanted, appreciated, listened to and acknowledged. We want to matter. We want to fit in, yet be our own person and march to our inner pan flute. Stuff that, I hate pan flutes…. the sound of a lone saxophone. That’s what I choose to be….. and we have music all right.


Lonely. I have seldom felt more lonely than within a group of people. Sometimes they are pan flutes, some even play the triangle. They are lost to the sound of the saxophone. I don’t mind being alone. On my own. I’m really smashing company. Especially at 3am.

After I did my Radio Today interview, I felt utterly naked on a foreign stage to be judged. Bare. I’m not sure how I expected to feel, because nothing I said was different to what I would write or speak about. You can listen to the podcast:  HERE

Oh and do people love a small public lynching amongst themselves!

I totally forgot the topic as my mind ….. wonders around interesting spaces all the time. How great others would have done, never been in a studio before… “here is a microphone love, knock yourself out“. Well, I admit, while I truly enjoyed it and I would do it again in a heartbeat, I have learned a number of things during my 22 minutes on air. There are things I would do  very differently. Some technical, some behavioural, breathing would be good and not mention nymphomania in the first five minutes may be a stretch… but at the end of it, I always want to be unashamed me….and that I was. True to me.

Why do we all want to fit in so badly? We want to be ourselves. Okay forget the pan flutes you can all be drums if you like, but … “Please… oh do like me and and add me or send me an invitation to the A list of bloggers / school lunch break cool group / geek group / social outcast group / social media supreme luncheon / media drops / influencers / interesting creatures list. Just don’t leave me out here… with my nose pressed against the window looking in.” Love me. Care about me. Don’t exclude me. That is what we ALL want. Even the bad asses. We want to fit with someone or something…somewhere.

Did you know… there is no medal at death for being part of a herd? None. Well, none that any near death experiences documented that I have read, spoke about. Bright light and peaceful I’ve heard… even harps (right up there with pan flutes – save me!) but no medals. No reward. Not a pat on the back.

“Oh you were a fantastic herd person. Just stand in this line… no, oops ….sorry, wrong line, you were not an interesting person .. frankly we do believe you died while you were still alive. You were a mere flute… Our mistake… off you go.” tra-la-la (Bee I hear you now!)


We really need to stop apologising for who we are and embrace ourselves. Nobody can be a better you, than you can be! Nobody is the world knows you better! Okay… maybe God and the Devil. I do believe they make it their business to know. Well, the Devil does. God already knows your details before you were born,… it is not God’s fault if you wanted to be a flute.

If you must, … rather play the triangle. At least we remember the triangle! …. but there is NOTHING like a lone Saxophone.

a cry that tells us love goes on and on
played on a solo saxophone
it’s telling me
to hold you tight
and dance like it’s the last night of the world
– Miss Saigon

I wish you enough,


Jokes about menstrual cycles are not funny. Period.

Dear friends and other interesting creatures,

Seriously.  When can this period thing end now? I’m really toooo old for this crap.

My lovely gynaecologist replied that I could easily have four more kids. Did he forget he already delivered a fair amount of children from my womb?  Or that I am 42 and the meaning of life hasn’t arrived? (I may have resentment issues about that) Awesome “in shape reproductive system” I have…. besides that so far, while my kids are loved more than they will ever understand, I’ve happen to have passed on some really awesome genetic illnesses. Besides that I do not want to raise a baby all over again. I have zero patience. If the baby could stay a baby baby size for a very long time… that would be super cool! Love tiny babies.

Telling you, my forefathers were kick ass Portuguese pirates who ate delicate French cuisine until a great,  great,  great grandfather Kruger found the coloured help enticing (our family tree branch – a lot!). The Bible does speak about “the sins of the fathers to the 3rd and 4th generations…“… I am sure these sins were diverse and they probably thought they were having a great time. We love Ankylosing Spondylitis and the depression / anxiety combo is a great treat guys.


Please take my writing with a pinch of salt,  I’m well aware of repentance … yet I hope one day God will explain to me why some believers suffer so greatly.

Also, my friends will know this post does not make light of infertility at all. That is a different kind of hell all together. One I was obviously not strong enough to handle. There is a special heaven in my heart for moms who have difficulty with conception, or give up their babies for adoption and adoptive parents.

I wish you enough,


In conversation with Liam James

Dear friends and other interesting creatures,

I’ve slowly been building up a series of interviews I have done with the kids in my life. Kinda get their perception of me…. So far I’ve published Kyle and Kyla ‘s answers to my many questions. Go check them out.


Today’s is a little different. I found a post where I had interviewed my son Liam James when he was 12, and also now the answers he gave me at 19. I think you are going to laugh at this one. On the 12-year-old interview… I especially enjoyed his response to question 10 and number 18 is a comedian in the making! Don’t even mention his reply to question 21!!


Liam as a 12 year old

1. What is something mom always says to you? You can do better.
2. What makes mom happy? When she is with her kids, knowing she has enough money so the kids will have food on the table.
3. What makes mom sad? When we disappoint her, when she doesn’t get her way, when we talk to her ugly.
4. How does your mom make you laugh? She says those fanTy words… and these interviews!
5. What did your mom like to do as a child? She liked to read books, ride her bicycle and spend time with her uncle Chris.
6. How old is your mom? 35
7. How tall is your mom? Like 5.1 cm?? I don’t know. Whatever the right height thingie is.
8. What is her favorite thing to watch on TV? Grey’s Anatomy. Idols.
9. What does your mom do when you’re not around? She spends time with @SirNoid and tries to have fun.
10. If your mom becomes famous, what will it be for? Acting. She is such a drama queen.

Liam James

11. What is your mom really good at? She is really really good at singing, acting and cooking.
12. What is your mom not very good at? She is not very good at maths and getting to places on time and that’s about it.
13. What does your mom do for her job? Does accounting and manages people’s monies.
14. What is your mom’s favorite food? Souskluitjies.
15. What makes you proud of your mom? She has been there for me and is always looking after me.
16. If your mom were a cartoon character, who would she be? I think Donald Duck.
17. What do you and your mom do together? We shop.
18. How are you and your mom the same? We take medicine, we both very emotional and we both not very good in the head.
19. How are you and your mom different? I think we are different because I’m a dude and she is a dudette and I don’t care about my weight and she does…. And I love to eat allot and allot.
20. How do you know your mom loves you? Because she goes out of her way to do things for me, except for the one time when she went to Gold Reef City without me. I know you love me because you care for me and always try to make things better.
21. What does your mom like most about your dad (the x-person)?This may take a while… give me a few hours or some days… Sorry I can’t think of anything.
22. Where is your mom’s favorite place to go? Cape Town (without us). Is this interview over?

My Lee has a truly beautiful, sensitive and giving heart who loves to go to the gym and eat cheese. Cheese is a big deal in his life. He always tells me he eats Strawberry Pops when he misses me (May I just mention, I have not had any since I started banting a year ago).  It is only Liam James and Ouma Chrissie that I know always puts on body lotion whenever they come in contact with water. He is big on hydration and installed a water drinking challenge app on my phone to make sure I drink enough water.

He understands me very well (my weaknesses and strengths) and while he can come across abrupt at times he is actually a very thoughtful person. He likes to visit with friends but like me, also needs solitude. He prefers living “in the countrybecause he says “not even the birds sound sincere in the city”. Ha ha ha! I loved that comment.

We do laugh and talk enthusiastically (meaning loudly!) when we are together. Lee adapts to a situation with ease. He is able to walk up, introduce himself and off you go. He may hook up with the cleaner and the CEO in one evening. No problem. He speaks to anyone and treats people equally. He does not judge. He has a very low threshold for people who they think are better than another because of their financial status. The boy also did not come with tact. His words are out before his brain has any chance of filtering that information... remind you of anyone?

He is the one who will take off his shoes and give it to another, with no second thought. I will never forget that he asked for a Bar One as a Christmas gift one year, … and another time he just wanted packets of jelly for his birthday. (We are not alike in this department.) Lee is a dreamer. Lovable, never boring and quick-witted. He is also as naughty as hell can handle, and creates mayhem with ease!

Liam James is really easy on the eye, and has a certain charm about him… he calls me MOTHER btw. Nutter. Who does that? :)

My blue-eyed wonder whom I love very, very, very much….. My one and only shot at any of my kids having I LOVE MOM tattooed on them! :)  Love you my darling boy. Wishing all your big dreams come true, that your life works out the way you would like and not in the corner you have been pushed. Remember, push back.  (Things Maureen says… inside joke…)


Liam 19 6

1. Is there something I say to you often? I love you

2. What makes me happy? Purple giraffes and seeing your kids in one place.

3. What makes me sad? Feeling helpless and when you cannot help your kids.

4. How do I make you laugh? You just be yourself around me.

5. What do you think I was like at your age? Fun, exciting – not a trouble maker.

6. How old am I? 14

7. How tall am I? 5ft 5

8. What is my favourite thing to do? Besides the obvious spending time with your family… Reading.

9. What do you think I do when you are not here? I think you work.

10. If I was famous, what would I be famous for? Social Media Empire.

11. What am I really good at? You are good at making people feel loved.

12.  What is I very bad at? Hmm very tough question aha making pancakes!

13. What do I do at work? Make other people famous.

14. What is my favourite food? I think salmon and eggs and cream cheese.

15. What makes you proud of me? You will to survive and adapt in any situation.

16. If I was a character on TV or Movies , who would I  be? Judy Garland.


17. What do you and I do together that you enjoy? Talking I think.

18. In which way are you and I the same? We have sympathy for poor people.

19. What do you and I disagree about? Lol everything!

20. How do you know that I love you? You keep me out of jail.

21. What do I like about @SirNoid? I actually don’t know … he is really awesome and makes you happy.

22. Where do I love to go? Cape Town and Drakensberg.

23. Is there a song that reminds you of me? Jolene –  Dolly Parton

24. Where is my favourite place to go on holiday?  Uvongo, use to be don’t know if it still is. 

25. If you introduce me to your friends,  what do you call me?  This is my mom Wenchy or Aunty Stel.


I wish you enough,


Every girl & drag queen … MUST have Glamore!… Oh also lashes & purple hair.

Dear friends and other interesting creatures,

I’m not a fashion blogger. We all sigh with relief if all my colours remotely go together… like most fat people, I dress comfortably which means the garment actually fit over my African hips. According to the medical calculations I have a 100% perfect waist/hip ratio. For a fat person, I find that hysterical. Thankfully my doctor knows me well and don’t mind loud laughter, or loud tears on occasion. Bless him.  :) Perhaps the fabulous Alan and Krishen wants to do a make over with the Wench 10kg from now? Although they have never treated me anything but fabulous when I see them. Such gentleman!

I am however a blogger that hugely enjoys beauty products and spa treatments.  From the basics of skin, hair and nail maintenance to make up glamour and hot stone massage, pedicures…oh the list is so long!

On the makeup scene, in the past, I loved bronzing products until I realised the skin pigmentation pregnancy left me with, is screaming “victim here!” … so I’ve stopped that look. It was a matter of scaring little children.

The Diva in me may be a closet drag queen adore my Glamour Lashes, purple makeup tones and glitter. I have not mastered the smokey eye (my sister, Rentia is a gift with this kinda thing), but I am known for a love of long lasting lipstick that does not dry your lips.

During the past few weeks,  I experimented with a number of products from Glamore Cosmetics whom I encountered on Twitter. A testiment that the online world can connect us with fantastic people,  companies and products.

Glamore Cosmetics

Besides that I genuinely love the brand (I would honestly tell you if I did not), the personal service, recommendations and extensive knowledge of Gael from Glamore Cosmetics have been impressive. You can tick the box in the customer service department!

Firstly,  I tried another shade in the range of nail polish which I reviewed last month, (Jungle Pop 280) which I am very pleased with. It is still a purple,  but has specs of glitter hidden in it. Thembi, (the gorgeous nail technician who has faithfully done my nails for 7 years now) is very pleased with the brand.  For me it is all about the colour, and that it lasts…. but Thembi looks at brushes,  ease of application and consistency. Reasons why people are professionals in their field. We are both impressed.

To help distract attention from my pigmentation pregnancy cheeks, the Pearly Powder Balls are very effective. It comprises of balls with different light shades to apply, lighting the look of the pigmentation on my cheeks. My only negative is that it does not include a brush, but thankfully I sorted that issue out fast.

I tried the Hean Vitamin Cocktail Lipstick and while it has a wonderful, intensive care and nourishment feeling, it was not long lasting enough for me. I require a lipstick with some staying powder as I’m forever hugging and kissing people. Even if it is the french – cheek, other cheek kisses. If you are a normal, non constant kissing you will love this products. Great variety of colours also. My friend Fiona tried it, loved the colour and I admit it went beautifully with her complexion!

The AA 40+ Mezzo Laser Wrinkling Decreasing Night Cream is light, nourishing and especially for those who have allergies and skin sensitively.It was very smooth, rich is luxury … but I am a bit little bit OCD, so for me, I would need the range – cleaners, toner etc to make a call. Yes, there are products for younger people. We can’t all be 40+ and flashing!

I would recommend that the Glamore Cosmetics team sell a brush set of sorts, that would be helpful.

Glamore Cosmetics

The eye shadow I cannot write much about besides that I loved the colours, easy to apply (again no applicator) because I had fallen deeply in love with its distant cousin, the eye shadow base for which I had received a sample. It is amazing! For long lasting eye shadow, every girl and drag queen MUST have some eye shadow base. It is the kind of product I need to keep extra just in case I run out. Absolute winner! Buy it. You will not regret it!!!

purple-star purple-star purple-star purple-star  purple-star rating from me.

For the month of October, I’ve decided to showcase my #purplehairdontcare from Ultimate Hair,  as well as the dramatic lashes Bailey from Glam Lashes keeps looking very Cabaret! .. I will be embracing a nude / natural look which requires quite a few products to pull off, especially at 42 years of age. I am going for that *giggle*Oh! I always look like this when I wake up!” look. Will let you know how well that works out…. Glamore Cosmetics here I come!

If I look pale or ill, I obviously messed it up so please remind me to put on lipstick and to take my Zanax.


Glamore Cosmetics is available online, with free delivery for orders larger than R250. You can find them on Facebook and Twitter.


I love sharing the wonderful products and services I find on my journey and enjoy passing the enjoyment to my readers. I have three different giveaways this week!!!

Glamore Cosmetics are giving away two gift vouchers to the value of R250 to my readers located anywhere in South Africa! Ordered is delivered to your front door. Please follow them on Twitter and/or Facebook , and in the comment section on my blog, please share which products you would choose to the value of R250. :) Please ensure you enter your correct e-mail address so that I can reach you to mail your voucher. 

Judy from Ultimate Hair  who is responsible for my much loved purple hair (which is doing massive amounts for my brand – who knew?), would also like to spoil my readers. She has generously offered a cut and blow to the value of R300 voucher to two of my readers, who will also receive 20% off a full head of highlights, should you choose to have themThe salon is located near Cresta Shopping Centre and your voucher is valid Monday to Saturday. Again, please ensure you enter your correct e-mail address so that I can reach you to mail your voucher. 

The gorgeous Bailey from Glam Lashes runs a mobile salon and is giving two of my readers 50% off two their first eye lash extension experience. Getting Cabaret lashes is one of the best things I have ever done beauty wise! Bailey will come to your home, discuss what type of eyelash extension you would like to have, from natural, just enhanced ,to well… Wenchy! She operates between Randburg and Bedfordview in Johannesburg, so the prize is restricted to Johannesburg readers only. Visit her website for prices and see what you would like to have done, perhaps for that special occasion? Again, please ensure you enter your correct e-mail address so that I can reach you to mail your voucher. 

You are welcome to enter all, or one of the giveaways! Have fun. Winners will be announced on Friday, 2 October 2015 via e-mail.

Sincere thank you to my sponsors. I am deeply honoured that you entrust me with your products, time, and most of all share your knowledge with me to make me the best I can be.

I wish you enough,


PS. Yes, the pictures were all taken by me, so please do not take them from me.

If I should fall behind, wait for me.

Happy Anniversary to my darling husband! The man with the thighs.

@SirNoid made from huge patience, a quick temper to match my own, tremendous dedication, huge love and passion for the girl who has her head in the clouds and her feet on a yellow brick road… sprinkled with purple fairy dust. Not always practical, never conventional and needs the challenge only testosterone provides.
I appreciate all you do for us (today I am only writing about you and I… no kids), everything you give me from your heart, the haka on a beach, to helicopter flips over Victoria Falls, ice cream in winter, and flying me up the Drakensberg as you had wanted to exchange vows there…. where we can see forever… to the daily purple glitter that completes our life together.

Thank you for believing in my dreams and doing everything you can to make them possible. I know I test your will to live some days but that is kinda what comes with loving Wenchy. :) Sounds dramatic cause I’m a Diva dammit! At least life with me is never boring or predictable at. Challenging at worst.

I love your quirky self that drives me bonkers at times as you pause the TV when I’m busy watching and you fell asleep…. or have to attack on #ClashOfClans midst serious discussion…. but having to look at every rock, hill or cloud formation during road l trips may be the iceberg! Ha!

I love your shoulder dance and your 3am we up calls. I love how you tell me everything on your heart as you get ready for work. I love that you eat my very mmm….. interesting concoctions and try really hard to sleep with the fan on.

You are very funny with jokes that I think you can’t wait for an opportunity to tell. You are considerate in bringing me a purple blanket when I’m cold or make coffee when the kettle is empty. You always bring me something when you travel and you try to understand my low days while the relief on my up days is celebrated.

You work 14 hour days / nights to make sure we are okay. I appreciate the excess you put into your branch with loyalty and purpose. I do not think your company, nor those who report to you, know how much extra you do for them. When I do my rounds as the bosses wife, I am incredibly proud of you. We have come so far.

Nobody but you and I know how much we have endured and overcome. I credit you as the one never to give up. Especially not on our relationship.

Besides this you are obviously a total pain in the neck, literally. :)

When I’m sore and you can do nothing to fix it, the desperate look on your face speaks volumes…you ask why the medicine doesn’t work when you work so hard to provide it…and neither of us has an answer. It is perhaps then, when your true vulnerability shows which you attempt to hide so well.

I may not be your first love, but I suspect you kept the best for last.

Loves you Coach…. and thank you. Happy Anniversary!

PS. I remind you of this part of our ceremony:

“With this ring, I give you my promise
that from this day forward
you shall not walk alone. 
I have no greater gift to give. 
May my heart be your shelter
and my arms be your home.”

Dis ek, Anna

Dear friends and other interesting creatures,

It has never happened to me that I see a movie, the audience randomly burst into applause,  remain seated while the credits roll in silence and the audience keep applauding … and nobody rushes to their feet. Especially not an Afrikaans movie.

I had read “Dis ek, Anna” and “Die staat teen Anna Bruwer” in my native language Afrikaans and was deeply touched by it.  When I received an invitation to the film viewing, I had to see it. 

My son Liam James (19) accompanied me.  He was worried he wouldn’t follow an Afrikaans film as it is not his first language. There were subtitles in English, but to be honest, it is not imperative to the comprehension of the film.

The time has passed where local film cannot compete in the box office. If I wasn’t convinced after “Balade Vir ‘n Enkeling”,  I have zero doubt now!

Charlenè Brouwer who plays the role of the older Anna, is flawless. Morne Visser definitely also deserves a massive mention.

This is a film that gets full colours,  5 big purple stars from me!


From Wikipedia :

“Dis ek, Anna” is a South African (Afrikaans) drama based on the two top selling novels by Anchien Troskie (writing as Elbie Lotter) called Dis ek, Anna (It’s me, Anna) and Die Staat teen Anna Bruwer (The State vs Anna Bruwer). Set in modern day South Africa, it tells the story of Anna Bruwer who avenge the years of abuse suffered by the hand of her step father and the court case that ensues. Written by Tertius Kapp. Produced by Niel van Deventer. Directed by Sara Blecher and starring amongst others Charlene Brouwer, Marius Weyers, Nicola Hanekom, Morne Visser, Drikus Volschenk, Elize Cawood and Eduan van Jaarsveld.

For the next week it is showing exclusively at @nouveaubuzz in @RosebankMall, before it will be released nation wide. Go see it.

I wish you enough,