Cruelty free.

Dear friends and other interesting creatures,

I received a press release with information I thought some of you may be interested in.

I’m love Sorbet, and do want to keep my readers in the loop. Unfortunately my happy place of beauty, Sorbet Fourways does not have a Sorbet Drybar  but the therapists at Sorbet Killarney Mall is lovely. In a moment of need, it is a quick in and out and you look fabulous, without having made an appointment. My daughter Victoria’s hair is super long and very difficult to wash and dry, so for a special occassion it is a great spoil.

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Cherry Blossom Flowers Shampoo & Conditioner

I wanted to share with you that PETA have endorsed the Brazilian hair care products from INOAR which you can purchase at your local Sorbet Dry Bar, or online – including the very popular Cherry Blossom Flowers Range.

Instead of animals, INOAR only uses vegetable-based ingredients in their formulations. This is why INOAR has been included in PETA’s list of cruelty free companies.

PETA (People for the Ethical Treatment of Animals) is a nonprofit corporation created in 1980, which has over 5 million members, and is dedicated to animal rights. PETA’s motto reads: “Animals are not ours to eat, wear, experiment on, use for entertainment or abuse in any other way.”

Don’t say I don’t keep you informed.🙂

I wish you enough,

Wenchy

@SirNoid ♡ @NocturnalWenchy 


Who is older?

@SirNoid is older as girls have started calling him “Oom“.  I’m #14forever. You do the math. ♡

How long have you been together? 
Since 12th of January 2008.

Who is the most sensitive? 
I am hyper sensitive and hurt emotionally and physically very easily. I laugh as loudly as I cry.

@SirNoid cries at Disney movies and adverts. I’m not sure if that means he is sensitive or appreciate the performing arts.

Where do you eat out most as a couple? 
Wherever @SirNoid gets invited to join me at a #foodie event, we dining out as a couple! ♡ (Can you feel the lack of budget tonight…? )

@SirNoid has become a #foodie in his own right, especially craft beer. Proud of him

Who has the quick temper? 
Coming from an Italian/ Portuguese background I have a red, hot temper. There is a reason I decided never to own a gun. I would take you out. I would not feel bad.  You clearly needed to go. I learned that lesson during my first marriage.

@SirNoid may have been born in Welkom but his temper matches mine.

Who is more social? 
I’m exceptionally more social the older I get… I care less and less how others feel about me,  which is scary and I started off on a rather low scale.

@SirNoid…  I think depends on the company.

Who is the most stubborn? 
I’m actually not sure. Imagine we had a child!

Who wakes up earlier? 
We both wake up when @SirNoid ‘s alarm goes off.

Do you get flowers often? 
No

Who is the first one to admit when they’re wrong? 
Me.  @SirNoid is never wrong.

Who has the craziest ex’s? 
There has been some hectic times but thankfully normality has settled.

Who wears the pants in your relationship? 
@SirNoid 

Who cries more? 
Me.  I am a dramatic art. Dammit.

Who said “I love you” first? 
@SirNoid

Who is the better cook? 
@SirNoid

Who is more messy? 
I am.

Who’s the best driver? 
Me  when @SirNoid is not in the car. (ha ha😵!)

Who makes the Coffee / Tea? 
I make coffee ☕  in the morning and at night. Something has to be an apology for my crappy cooking right?

BTW, what coffee do YOU buy? 

… against the spirit 

​”I want to live among people who are conscious that we live in a war. A war against life, against the spirit. 

People who don’t pretend to be struggling when it is obvious that what they are doing is turning a battlefield into a garden.

I want to live among people who don’t look down at their feet, or won’t look you in the eyes when you speak of struggle or insurrection, because In their heart they know they have surrendered, and because—maybe, just maybe—they never really hated the system. Among people who have not been bought, who did not take the pills they were offered, because they preferred to struggle with their feeling of pathologized anxiety than to live in the dead zone. People who don’t pretend to be struggling when it is obvious that what they are doing is turning a battlefield into a garden. I want to be in a place where the war is admissible.”
—anonymous Spanish poet

Tra-la-la!!!

Wenchy x

Cirque Eloize iD – Giveaway!

Dear friends and other interesting people,

Win one of two sets of double tickets (4) to Cirque Eloize iD valid for the performance on Wednesday, 30 November 2016 at 8pm at The Teatro at Montecasino.

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Two lucky winners will each grab two seats to this performance on 30 November 2016! Please leave your name and correct e-mail address in the comment section, along with the date the tickets are valid for and my family and I will see you there?

I wish you enough!

Wenchy

oh #HelloBlackFriday 

Dear friends and other interesting creatures,

Happy Thanksgiving to all,  but especially to my friends and family living in the United States which is where this tradition was born.

Vicky and I met at school and have been friends since I was 12. Vix came to live with us a year or so later, and it was tremendous having my best friend become my sister! It has been a gift of friendship, love, support, loyalty, forgiveness, compromise, humour, affection, devotion that keeps on giving, for over 30 years. I love Vicky an intense amount.

Vicky and her husband, Russ and my gorgeous niece, Alex and nephew, Drew became proper America citizens last year. They residential on Marco Island in Florida and love the sea and sailing lifestyle.

Russ and Vicky with Drew and Alex.

This was the first election they could vote (ha ha ha!!), today is their first Thanksgiving as America citizens … and their first, smack people out the way #HelloBlackFriday as proper Americans tomorrow.😆

I asked Vicky who has been living  in the land of the free, and going out on #HelloBlackFriday, which appears like where the brave comes in, to tell me more about what #HelloBlackFriday is really like.

Ok Black Friday! You can go line up at most shops from late on Thursday night – Thanksgiving until the shops open on Friday and the shops open at 1:00am in the morning but you would be able to get all sorts of stuff at really special prices!

People has been trampled trying to get into Walmart and now they issue tickets and have a limited amount of the items for sale in the stores…. like you can buy a 60″ TV for a tiny amount but there is only 5 in the store.

Also what is happening, is more and more shops have started offering  sales online as well as have there specials start early e.g. from today (Thursday).

But then if you think you have special deals on Friday….  they also have Cyber Monday! 😀 Bigger and better!

Anyway living here, I have been keeping off buying anything because everything goes on sale on Friday. I have 25 items in my basket for Amazon that I will only buy on Friday, and it’s the best time to buy Christmas gifts!

– Vicky Stephens

Vicky is a yoga fanatic with some amazing moves. Follow her on Instagram. You my just try a pose… #justsaying

I will be checking out #HelloBlackFriday at @RosebankMall who is offering a lucky winner a R200 voucher to spend at @RosebankMall!

I will have some additional #HelloBlackFriday giveaways on my blog tomorrow, so remember to check it out.

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Please answer the following question (and make sure to leave your email address for notification of the winner!) in the comment section of my blog.

On which day of the week does #HelloBlackFriday traditionally fall on?

The winner will be announced early on #HelloBlackFriday. 

I wish you enough,

Wenchy 

He traveled very far, over land and sea…

A year later. The more things change, the more they stay the same. I love you Kev. I am thankful you work so hard to secure your future and study at night to achieve. All funded by yourself. I’m proud of all you have accomplished. When the day arrives for you to leave and see the world, I cannot imagine I will let you go silently into the “night”.

I wish you enough,
Nancy

The Nocturnal Wenchy

Dear friends and other interesting creatures,

I wanted this child so very much. I prayed him down from heaven, including asking God that please,  I do not want a boy with red hair! Have mercy. I never found out the gender,  but I was having a boy. My boy.

I wanted to give him the world but my ruby slippers was dusty and instead life dished us a bone crushing of a white picket fence.

My Kev was there for every happy and every sad…. Every sunshine and every rain,  every peanut butter sandwich and every one with chreese.  I cringe with heartache when he casually shares what he remembers. I wish he didn’t.

Not long ago I was once again apologising for something I felt I could have done better in his life.  He looked at me with empathy (which he reserves for few, mind you) and said :

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47 On Grant

  • 47 on Grant can be described in one word: Generous

Wenchy

Generous and sincere delight that you came to visit this Halaal . Generous deeply spiritual peace with smiles. Generous excitement at explaining dishes and excitement at doing so. Generous sharing in “how to” (drink Turkish coffee as if I would know!) and generous portions of food, especially flat bread and salads!

47 on Grant is located in the heart of Norwood. While the entrance is on the street, there is ample parking around the corner. The restaurant is a jump on the magic carpet as it opens onto the back of the restaurant to a delightful open air area with soft light. It really is such a gentle, almost sacred space. I loved it before I ate anything!

Dinner at 47 On Grant

Nadia is a humble but effective and efficient hostess and servers are well trained. There is no cutting corners. Nadia is clearly passionate about her offering and it shows. I noticed that she checked each dish before it was served.

I had a lamb kebab, unlike anything I’ve had before, cooked outside on an open flame. Surprisingly as I finished the one meat serving, a second appeared. It was delicious. Crispy, thin slices.

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I do not drink large amounts of alcohol, so being a Halaal restaurant that does not serve alcohol made no difference to me. The “mock” tails came in a wide variety. Fresh and crisp.
While my dessert was inventive and different, mozzarella inside a thin pastry, deep fried with a sweet sugar sauce with ice cream, I did not enjoy it as much as I hoped I would. I also tried a Turkish traditional cake which was light with ice cream. It was ok, but did not deliver for me on the overall experience.

Who do I need to credit for this pic?

If you are looking for an intimate dinner, romantic in the city, head for 47 On Grant and sit outside. Be open to experience new flavours and experience a different kind of dining.
Thank you for the opportunity to dine in style with #DineJoziStyle47 once more @JoziStyle It is always an honour for @SirNoid and I to be included.

With sincere gratitude I would like to acknowledge 47 On Grant whom sponsored the dinner, in exchange for a genuine, truthful, impartial and honest review.

I wish you enough,

Wenchy

PS. Did I mention I loved the flat bread ? 💜

Shut your eyes and see.

How do you feel about the upcoming December holidays?

The Nocturnal Wenchy

Dear friends and other interesting creatures,

Every year, I do my best to approach December as a passage of time, just another month. Some years I do better than others.

The anniversary of my father’s death is on the 14th, and my Oupa Mike on the 12th… Just before Christmas is Oupa Mike’s birthday.

I remember the eleven year old me running into the safety of Oupa Mike’s arms the night my father died.

I remember a 14 year old Kev holding me the morning Oupa Mike died. The unsure reassurance we offered each other.

December holds memories I don’t want to remember, but just can’t forget.

I have found Christmas more difficult since the kids moved out. At least when the kids were home, I had a reason to go through the motions. They all have their own lives. Own friends. New traditions and memories to make. I never…

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Mishandel, misbruik, misken by Carla van der Spuy

Mishandel, misbruik, miskenMishandel, misbruik, misken by Carla van der Spuy

My rating: 2 of 5 stars

I often receive books for review from publishers or authors but this book, I purchased. I was wondering why I have not heard anything about it, not a whisper. Now I know why.

Like other South Africans I have read the story of Joey Haarhoff and Gert van Rooyen in newspapers for many years. They are suspected of abducting and killing six teenage girls in 1988/1989. Gert very cowardly shot Joey before killing himself before police could arrest them. Were it not for these names I would not have purchased a copy of the book.

There is no doubt that Amor van der Westhuyzen had a horrific, abusive childhood and that it would manifest itself in many ways as she became an adult. That said, for me, the book lacked substance. At some point Amor picks up on a behavioural science of placing people into boxes based on behaviour and it appears that she believes this as black and white truth. Later, the reading of what people’s characteristics are according to their physical appearance was actually laughable and irritated me immensely.

I am sincerely happy for Amor van der Westhuyzen that she has faced her demons and that she is living a happy life within a successful marriage and has her own business. Sadly, this book will only be purchased because of the fascination the public remains to have with Joey Haarhoff and Gert van Rooyen.

I have just purchased another book written by Carla van der Spuy, so my disappointment in the book is not with the author. I think she did the best she could with the content she had to work with.

I wish you enough,

Wenchy

​Striving towards the thinner side of life.

My darling Bestie, @NocturnalWenchy again asked me to write a piece for her blog. And once again, I wonder if my words will have any impact on anyone else’s life.  

You see, I am quite the opposite to my outgoing, full of life, always smiling Bestie. The topic that she chose for me to write about is my weight loss journey.  And what an epic travel it is turning out to be.

I have always been on the bigger (read larger) side.  When I was a child, the weight issue got kept in check due to the vast number of sports that I participated in at any one time or another.  

So naturally after school, the weight piled on because I longer had the disciplines of the various sports to keep me going.  

I finished school weighing 85kg and a size 16.  And so it went for many years – the yo-yo dieting, the fluctuating weight and teetering between a size 18 and size 26.

Many of the days, it was just easier to give up and eat whatever. This was fuelled by the most cutting and snide comments from the ex. I got to the point that “who cares”. No one will love me being big, and I was my worst critic and enemy. This went on until the end of last year. 

I went on a cruise with my sister. I didn’t think that there was anything wrong with me at all. I just couldn’t see exactly how whale-like I had become. 

I got the shock of my life, when on a day in January, I decided to weigh myself.  I nearly died when the numbers stopped at 157kg.  

A fact that I am most certainly not proud of, in fact the complete opposite. I was sick to my stomach. How on earth had I let things get so completely out of control?  It was in that very instant that I decided that enough was enough and so the birth of #campaignsweet16 came about.  

I decided that working to a goal weight so often ends in failing, complete with the self-loathing and guilt that normally come with these types of things. 

The last time I was a size 16 was in 1992 when I finished school.  I have managed to get to an 18 quite a few times and then I fall off the proverbial wagon again.  Each time I was doing more harm than the time before.  I found a high protein diet on the internet and decided to give it a try. 

No it’s not Banting or LCHF or anything like that. Literally I started on high protein, no starch, no sugar, no added fats, no carbs, no colours or preservatives. So basically, think of everything that is yummy and nice and cut that out of your diet.  

However, I have found that if you are craving something, then has a small piece otherwise you end up binging and the whole cycle starts from the beginning again with the added “fun” of the extra self-loathing that you end up piling on yourself. 

I have also joined the gym, and hired a biokinetist to help me along my journey. So I try as much as I can to go five times a week.  I have had to take a little sabbatical due to broken ribs and torn tendons. That is a story for another day.  I have basically concentrated on cardio with a little strengthening and toning in between.  

My specialist has suggested that I begin swimming more often and also to join a yoga and/or pilates class to strengthen my core. This in itself should help the incredible back pain that I have suffered with over a number of years.

I think that the most important thing to remember is that it takes a long time to get into the “shape” that I got to, so getting back to the shape that I want to be will also take a lot of time. 

Unfortunately there are no magic pills, potions, rubs or miracle cures.  

It is simply working hard and sticking to a regimen that in total will benefit you. You have to be beholden to your own ideals and goals. Having said which it is generally a really grand idea to set goals that are achievable and work towards smaller short-term goals instead of looking at an incredibly huge number that you want to shed ahead of you.  This, I find, not only scares you and seems unachievable, but it is also easier to fall off the proverbial wagon.  

Smaller goals are easily reached and you are then able to “reward” yourself with little treats along the way.  

Most of all be kind to yourself.  Remember that we are all human and unless you have the will power that is as unbending as a scarecrow, there will be times that you err. Don’t beat yourself up about it. Keep in mind the end goal that you want to achieve. Keep going and you will get there. 

Be realistic. You can’t expect to lose everything in one month.  Slowly seems to be the best way to keep it off – as long as there are no huge binges involved as soon as you get some sort of positive result.   

I have also discovered that the more positive your mind set, the easier it seems to be to stay on track.  

So quite simply put, the happier you are, the easier it becomes to lose weight and the happier you become because you are actually getting to where you want to be! 

Having started this journey at the end of January 2016, I am now over 40kg lighter. I still want to lose another 35kg or so.

Most importantly I want to be at least a size 14!  I want those sparkly Guess Jeans. (Every girl needs diamonds on her ass at least once in her life!)  

So my original #CampainSweet16 has morphed in #CampaignSweet14GuessJeans.  

I will get there. I haven’t set myself a time limit (way too easy to set myself up for disappointment!) 

At the moment, I am a 16 on top and an 18 on bottom. So I am getting there. Top prize would be getting into those Guess Jeans by the time it’s my birthday. 

Birthday bubbles and sparkly jeans – sounds like a plan to me!

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Thank you my lovely #bestie for sharing. Congratulations on a wonderful, inspirational weight loss journey! I cannot weight to see you in them jeans.

You can interact with Gail on Twitter:  @GailvonG2  ✔