“Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something: they’re trying to find someone who’s going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take.” – Anthony Robbins
There is nobody I feel I need to let go. In the past month or two I have ‘let go’…… and I have made my peace with people, places and seasons.
There is however a person I wish I didn’t know. I never blog with ill intent and will therefore refrain from naming this person. I made the effort to befriend, to give of myself and offer support – honestly coming from a good place. I came away feeling unappreciated, judged, misunderstood and hurt. I feel used – only contacted when this person needed something or someone, or when it was convenient to be my friend.
I found this person to be a disappointing individual that lacks the basic ability to give and does not have the qualities of somebody I want to be friends with as there is no depth to them. That is all.
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Hope you can get this person out of your life permanently, it’s no fun having a “friend” that just takes, takes, takes. Xx
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Life is too short to waste on empty friendships – I have learnt that the hard way this year.
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I no longer tolerate people like this. In fact, I seldom let people into my world at all anymore, only picking and choosing the “most qualified”. There are just so many users out there and I just avoid them. It’s funny but when I was younger I was overcome with crappy people and I see my kids struggle with bad friends. I guess we use this experiences to shape us and learn how to discern the good people from the bad ones. So when my kids get to be old like me they won’t have crappy people in their lives anymore either. I guess what I’m trying to say is that we have to know the jerks to know how to avoid the jerks.
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Honey, life is to short to worry about others. Always put yourself first. You are an awesome friend.
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(((HUGS)))
I hope that letting go of this person is easy. You dont need to have dead weight. There is too much to do, too many people who do care and are genuine friends to waste time with someone like that.
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Kudos to you for not naming the individual. I like that about you, the not-blogging-with-ill-intent thing. The thing about a ‘friend’ such as the one you described is that they aren’t very hard to ditch once you’ve had enough of them, because they aren’t going to put any major effort into sustaining the ailing friendship. Let it go, I say.
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Sounds really harsh! It’s not easy actually making that call
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I hear you but refrain from commenting too much.
The “friend” you refer to is a waste of breath and effort on more levels you can imagine. I fully understand and support your feelings as you have shared them with me
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It’s your life and your choice who you let in and who you allow to stay. If it’s not working and becomes draining, then maybe it’s time to let go.
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I hope that in time you can let this person out of your life.
Life is too short to put up with people with only want to “withdraw” funds from the ATM of life and not make any “deposits” into that same ATM.
xx
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Good luck with that, I know it is not always so easy to drop an undesirable “friend”…
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You dont need friends that waste time and space. Stick to the ones you know are there for the right reasons…
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