Year End Quiz – 2011

Dear friends, faithful fuckwits and foe…..  –

My answers for the past three years to this quiz can be found here:

2010 – Year End Quiz Answers

 2009 – Year End Quiz Answers

2008 – Year End Quiz Answers

Here is the 2011 edition:

 1. What did you do in 2011 that you’d never done before?

  • I rode on an elephant with Noid in Zimbabwe. There is so much more I can tell than just those words, how I felt, what it meant to me, the one-ness I felt with the animal that made me want to stay. I loved Zimbabwe.
  • I visited three countries in one day ( South Africa, Zambia and Zimbabwe).
  • We saw ‘the smoke that thunders’ – Victoria Falls with a helicopter flip over it. The landscape was beautiful. We walked along the paths where the water falls rains on you and it is a special feeling of blessing.
  • We visited Lesotho where we 4x4ing on roads that make the Sani Pass look look like a beginners course. I prefer being the driver on 4×4 roads.
  • Hot Chocolate at the highest pub in Africa was much needed after hours and hours on the road. We saw beautiful hills, children, we crossed rivers…. but I was happy to see the end of it, in the dark of night at the Sani Top.
  • We travelled to new parts of Lesotho we hadn’t been to, through the Drakensberg back home.
  • We took our first Waltons holiday at the South Coast…. everyone but Nic who had to work. It was fun to see the kids so exciting and in an unfamiliar environment. We did learn that teenagers should be left at home.
  • I met my sister Mary-Ann for the first time.
  • I had a brazilian wax (not as sore as as expected) and a brazillian blow (my hair didn’t fall out).
  • My Kevin went to his matric farewell and looked so dashing.
  • We celebrated big for my husband’s 40th.
  • I had a purple giraffe cake for my birthday.
  • We moved to a new house and we were no longer married, but living apart. That was such a difficult time.
  •  Divorce doesn’t usually excite one, but this one I would have paid everything I have to see happen.I got my friend Jax back.
  • I got sick and put on temporary disability.
  • My children relocated to live with their other parents.
  • I adopted a cat,…. then three.
  • We won a picnic, thanks Fiona!
  • We flew to Cape Town to celebrate Mother Mary’s 60th birthday with her. I was sick for most of the weekend and everyone took such good care of me. I felt really close to Noid and enjoyed watching the sea…. oh and the ice cream at Camps Bay.
  • We had high tea at the Mount Nelson which was wonderful. It was everything I had imagined…. and more.
  • I started my own Book Club called WOW! (Woman of worth) that meet once a month.
  • I arranged gifts for an old age home in memory of my first mom in law, Muriel Cadger.
  • My hair that I had been growing for six years – cut short.
  • I made a milk tart. Thank Mercia for the recipe. 🙂
  • I danced with Noid and his first wife, Cal. Noid said it was a ‘mind fuck’ hahahah.

2. Did you keep your New Years’ resolutions, and will you make more for next year?

I had two resolutions for 2011:

  1. Not to weigh myself for an entire year. (failed)
  2.  To have a family home with my husband and my six kids. (done)

For 2012, I have two resolutions:

  1. Lose the weight I gained through no excercise, chronic pain and eating  – expecially since my ass is appparently so big, it spills into the theatre seat next to me, giving that person no space.
  2. Learn to accept and let go.

3. Did anyone close to you give birth?

My friend Cindy is due any minute now. 🙂


4. Did anyone close to you die?

My first pet ever, baby Gaga died of liver failure. I was truly, sincerely crushed.

5. What countries did you visit?

South Africa, Zambia, Lesotho and Zimbabwe.

6. What would you like to have in 2012 that you lacked in 2013?

  1. Strength – both physically and mentally
  2. Sex and lots of it, as Shirley Valentine would say!
  3. A spirit of acceptance and letting go.

7. What dates from 2011 will remain etched upon your memory?

2 December 2012 – Day my kids moved to their respective fathers for very different, but good reasons.

8. What was your biggest achievement of the year?

I don’t think mine was a year of achievements, but letting go of work when I knew I wasn’t coping could be an achievements and doing the right thing for my kids, letting them go, may be an achievement. 

9. What was your biggest failure?

Focussing too much on the people around me and not looking after those closest to me.

10. Did you suffer illness or injury?

This has been the year of INSANE CRAP health. I am at the stage where I don’t care what illness I have, I just don’t want to be in pain.

11. What was the best thing you bought?

My car! Wenchy GP.

12. Whose behaviour merited celebration?

The company I work (or worked – I don’t know anymore) for has been so supportive.

13. Whose behaviour made you appalled and depressed?

Our elopment damaged many friendships. I lost some friendship… I feel sad that my friends judged me, instead of saying I don’t agree, but I will support you. I miss them.

14. Where did most of your money go?

We travelled quite a bit this year and our new home was kitted out from top to bottom with new furniture, appliances etc – we started afresh. Noid works incredibly hard for every small thing that comes into this house.

15. What did you get really, really, really excited about?

Buying my car was exciting beyond belief, I could choose whatever I liked…… and have the number plate I wanted.  I chose a South African made car because I am a seriously proudly South African, a red (there is no purple) Renault Sandero Stepway.

16. What song/album will always remind you of 2011?

Bowling for Soup’ song 1985.

Springsteen, Madonna
Way before Nirvana
There was U2 and Blondie
And music still on MTV
Her two kids in high school
They tell her that she’s uncool
Cause she’s still preoccupied
With 1985


17. Compared to this time last year, are you:

  • Happier or sadder? Happier in a different way. I feel I have reached a place inside myself that is comfortable.
  • Thinner or fatter? Fatter.
  • Richer or poorer? Richer in so many ways.

18. What do you wish you’d done more of?

Spending time with friends and family…. I seldom want to go but I usually end up having a great time and am glad I went. I wish I was a more fun Mom….. and I wish I honoured the woman inside me, instead of becoming an illness.

19. What do you wish you’d done less of?

Seeing doctors, paying for medicine.

20. How will you be spending Christmas?

Noid and I will be spending the day with his folks. (My Mom cancelled Christmas the year my father died) We are cooking a three course meal….  It is his parents last Christmas in Gauteng before they retire to Swellendam early next year and we hope they will feel special.  

21. Who did you spend the most time on the phone with?

I still detest speaking on the phone….. but I’ve actually spoken to my Mom most this year.

22. Did you fall in love in 2011?

Is marriage not falling in love with the same person all the time?

 23. How many one night stands in this last year?

All my nights were spend with Noid, clothed or not.

24. What was your favourite TV program?

I really enjoyed The Mentalist

25. Do you hate anyone now that you didn’t hate this time last year?

For the first time ever, I can say I don’t hate anyone.

26. What was the best book(s) you read?

The Whisperer by Donato Carrisi.

27. What was your greatest musical discovery?

Adele. Her beautiful voice and her being out there doing her thing while not looking like a stick figure.

28. What did you want and get?

My car! …. and a tiny camera for my bag….. and many other things! It was a year of blessings amongst the physical pain.

29. What did you want and not get?

Healing for whatever is wrong with me physically.

30. What were your favourite films of this year?


31. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?

I turned 38 and once again blew out 14 candles as I am going to be 14 forever. My birthday was celebrated at the JHB Zoo with a picnic with friends and family. Jax made me a gorgeous purple giraffe cake. 🙂

32. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?

A correct diagnosis and medication to fix it. Laughing with my kids.

33. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2011?

I have no concept of fashion. I wear whatever comes in purple. 🙂

34. What kept you sane?

Xanor kept me stable, not sane. LOL

35. Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most?

Sharon Osborne.

36. What political issue stirred you the most?

A government-proposed “Protection of Information Bill” that would prevent the disclosure of information deemed harmful to the “national interest”.

37. Who did you miss?

I miss my Mom and my sister, Rentia. I wish they lived closer.

38. Who was the best new person you met?

Natasja who is a friend of Kevin, Matthew’s mom. Patricia who is an angel.

39. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2011.

You can’t buy good health.

40. Quote a song lyric that sums up your year?

Don’t forget me, I begged
I remember you said,
Sometimes it lasts in love but sometimes it hurts instead.

Someone like you by Adele

I wish you enough,


Bugatti Taste Cafe Notes

Hello! I am working on my year end quiz at the moment, but thought I had to write this. 🙂

Noid was asleep when I left so I am by myself at greenstone, at my favourite coffee shop, Bugatti having a strawberry smoothie. I use to dislike anything berry but I love strawberries and no I am NOT pregnant.

Their is so many people here and I am relaxed and they don’t worry me one bit.

My husband bought me the tiniest little camera I asked for, for Christmas. I went looking for a pouch and a memory card. Usually we have crap service there but today it is all smiles! Wow! They also have a food section now.

My Kevin told me I am becoming a hermit and he is worried about me. I admit it IS something I have been thinking about. I have gained so much weight which makes me feel so ugly and a huge disappointment to myself and others…… makes me feel most comfortable in my room. I got rid of my fatter clothes so my wardrobe is limited.

I will hear at the end of January 2012 if my disability application is approved or what the plan is further.

There is bells ringing, people talking, kids laughing and some crying, long lines for ice cream cones, I hear so many of our languages, little lights flickering and I feel happy sitting here as if I don’t have a care in the world!

I cherish these simple moments of peace.

I wish you enough, especially flickering light and the laughter of children.


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In Memory of my 1st (smile) Mom in Law, Muriel Cadger

Muriel Elizabeth Palmer was born on 21st June 1942 in Edinburgh, Scotland. Muriel was diagnosed with Multiple sclerosis at the age of 16. She married James Cadger and gave birth to two children, Steven Greig (my first husband and the biological father of Kevin and Liam James) and Jill Elizabeth. The emigrated to South Africa and she worked for Standard Bank. Muriel and James divorced when their kids were teenagers.

I met Mom when I was 14 years old and dating her son who was in his early 20’s. She was already in a home then. Always happy to see you, always a smile on her face and even when in pain she’d smile and say ‘aye‘ if you asked how she felt. I admit it took me about a year to understand her proper Scottish accent. 🙂 She was selfless and satisfied with very little. My Mom, Yvonne use to bring her to our home for the weekend for a change of scenery now and then. My mom would buy her an outfit, usually a tracksuit as she got cold easily as she had very little clothes and shoes, cut her hair, give her a manicure and pedicure and rub her legs with cream. I wish people really understood how important human touch is. She didn’t like asking for anything and was very proud.

Steven and I would occassionally, when we felt rich as we had very little money, take her to Mike’s Kitchen for lunch. She loved that. Eventually we could fold and unfold that wheelchair no issues. Mom would always order her pudding first, then her starter and then her main meal…. occassionally more pudding. If she drank anything with alcohol in it, she would giggle as if she was a naughty school girl.

Steven and I use to visit her, as well as my sister in law, Jill. We would sit for awhile and chat as she got tired easily, or simply wanted to lie down and often just sit in silence while she smiled.  She was thrilled when Kevin was born and she absolutly adored him. He was her favourite visitor. Her illness ketp deteriorating and eventually part of her leg was amputated which Kevin at the age of three thought rather funny. She would laugh with him and when she held him she looked so possitively content. By the time Liam James was born, she couldn’t remember much at all and poor Liam James didn’t feature. Funny as he is the only one with her blue eyes. We had to explain each time who Liam was. For the most part she remembered most people but by the time our divorce happened she only really remembered her son and Kevin.

As she was not elderly but sick, she was moved from home to home to look after her as she couldn’t care for herself and South Africa did not have many or any facilities that would suit her needs. I don’t know if they have any now. In any case Cosmos was one of the facilities she was placed in.

She died on 2nd July 2001 of pneumonia after suffering a stroke 18 months prior to that. I was not told at the time that she passed away because of the damaging relationship Steven and I had, I presume. I was very fond of her and she always had a smile for me.

When my friend Fiona asked me to donate a spot prize for the Old Age Home her Mom works at, I thought I am sure we can do better than that. Never take the easy way out Wenchy and just grab a bottle from our collection, nooooooo…..  A long way into the collecting of the monies stage I eventually put it together that it is the same home Mom Muriel was in for some time. I believed it presented itself as an opportunity to pay it forward, even if it is just the memory of my mom in law. I asked my twitter friends, the blogging  and face book and book club communities to please donate R25, most people donated more. THANK YOU!!!  I am so thankful that you guys have always opened your hearts and pockets for whatever operation save the world operation I come up with on any given day. THANK YOU. We had to come up with 82 gift packets to be delivered this morning for their Christmas Party.

We got enough monies, and my son Kevin and I went shopping for the goods at Macro which was EXHAUSTING, with Kevin asking random people if they think old people would like such and such. I wanted to kick him but I was too tired. He is a funny lad however. LOL Originally I was just going to buy boxes of Whispers which I accidently sent my requests out with the word Wiskers (Cat Food) and I was tortured with that stupid jokes for awhile LOL.  We shall not feed the elderly cat food!!! Somebody suggested there should rather be a variety and so the goodie bag with cracker was born!

This morning, at 6h30 am I handed over 82 packets of goodie bags WITH HUGE THANKS TO ALL WHO CONTRIBUTED and my Kevin who helped me shop and pack. As I sat on the floor packing I kept my thoughts on Granny Muriel and now being ill understanding a small part of how helpless and thankful she must have felt for any small thing that came her way…. I miss holding her hand. She was a special part of the eleven years I was part of the Cadger clan.


I would like to challenge you to look for opportunities to PAY IT FORWARD not just during the festive season but throughout the year.

I wish you enough.

Wenchy x

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Trust her with your life, not your eyebrows.

Most of us have best friends. I have been thinking what attracts us to that specific friend, that you may actually lay your life down for.

In our case we are both Gemini’s, we both have many kids, we have been married more than once, we love to laugh, we love to dance to Abba and we like a drink or two and if I was as thin as Jax, I would never have worn clothes…..and we both addicted to the pain a tattoo gun brings. We crave it. We love glitter, being girls and make up. We both LOVE Billy Connolly and we cut CD’s for each other to listen to. We both blog, although she is not regular. All bran?

Jax loves loud recently recorded kinda music, drinks a shit load more than me, mostly because I am too old for hangovers. She doesn’t like reading, she cooks and bakes, she was once married to a Jew….oi vey! …..the best I could raise her was a gay x husband, a large book collection, a box of country music and a Woolworths card to buy food.

We somehow fit, she gets me and I get her. We don’t need words. Whatever you do, as crap as it is there is NO JUDGEMENT only acceptance and a hug….and a brief “told you that was a fuck up!”.

We love each other anyway, I swear more than her, I come across more conservative cause I am fat but in reality, if I were thin I would be the girl rocking the boots. There is no jealousy at all. We happy for each other and support each other.

We keep secrets, bury the Earls in the apple orchard and we keep going. Jax says we are a circle, we don’t end. We deep like that. 🙂

Now, if this is your best friend who has a copy of your living will and organ donor card, you would ask for her help in any instance.

We were on bbm. Jax on her way back from her lawyer when I mentioned Liam James needs Ritalin URGENTLY or apple orchard for him. Her Connor is a Liam James and she told me they trying a new drug on Con, she has some spare Ritalin. Hallelujah chorus all round. She is in my area and very soon in my room with a view. Medication immediately administered.

I am feeling very unsteady and dizzy today. Physically, emotionally and psychologically. I blame everything on the medicine LOL.

Anyhow, I ask my friend if she could colour my hair for me cause I am desperate and salons are so expensive and I am not feeling well. Just the roots and eyebrows. I always colour my own eyebrows.
My friend does not pause a minute. Off course, she is happy to help. She rolls her eyes and does my eyebrows not saying, look babe, this may be a fuck up LOL.

She coloured my hair beautifully no gray anywhere…. But when I looked in the mirror I saw a dark layer of black colour on my one brow….. NOT coloured inside the lines…. And the other brow, received minimal colour, also not inside the lines but a two tone brow for me. ….mmmmm

I tried a variety of goodies to take the colour off, eventually Savlon did the trick with hard rubbing and a small burn! My forehead looked like Rudolph’s nose! Fucking hell, so there I was rubbing Savlon, rinsing with water and eventually I look okay enough to go in public, with make up! 🙂 I am now exhausted.

Jaxie, you are hired to colour my hair again in two weeks time please, but we gonna have to outsource the eye brows, my friend.

Love you to my lasts sock!

Wishing you enough,
Wenchy x

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