Nocturnal Wenchy

Dear friends, faithful fuckwits and foe…..  –

My answers for the past three years to this quiz can be found here:

2010 – Year End Quiz Answers

 2009 – Year End Quiz Answers

2008 – Year End Quiz Answers

Here is the 2011 edition:

 1. What did you do in 2011 that you’d never done before?

• I rode on an elephant with Noid in Zimbabwe. There is so much more I can tell than just those words, how I felt, what it meant to me, the one-ness I felt with the animal that made me want to stay. I loved Zimbabwe.
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• I visited three countries in one day ( South Africa, Zambia and Zimbabwe).
• We saw ‘the smoke that thunders’ – Victoria Falls with a helicopter flip over it. The landscape was beautiful. We walked along the paths where the water falls rains on you and it is a special feeling of blessing.
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• We visited Lesotho where we 4x4ing on roads that make the Sani Pass look look like a beginners course. I prefer being the driver on 4×4 roads.
• Hot Chocolate at the highest pub in Africa was much needed after hours and hours on the road. We saw beautiful hills, children, we crossed rivers…. but I was happy to see the end of it, in the dark of night at the Sani Top.
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• We travelled to new parts of Lesotho we hadn’t been to, through the Drakensberg back home.
• We took our first Waltons holiday at the South Coast…. everyone but Nic who had to work. It was fun to see the kids so exciting and in an unfamiliar environment. We did learn that teenagers should be left at home.
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• I met my sister Mary-Ann for the first time.
• I had a brazilian wax (not as sore as as expected) and a brazillian blow (my hair didn’t fall out).
• My Kevin went to his matric farewell and looked so dashing.
• We celebrated big for my husband’s 40th.
• I had a purple giraffe cake for my birthday.
• We moved to a new house and we were no longer married, but living apart. That was such a difficult time.
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•  Divorce doesn’t usually excite one, but this one I would have paid everything I have to see happen.I got my friend Jax back.
• I got sick and put on temporary disability.
• My children relocated to live with their other parents.
• I adopted a cat,…. then three.
• We won a picnic, thanks Fiona!
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• We flew to Cape Town to celebrate Mother Mary’s 60th birthday with her. I was sick for most of the weekend and everyone took such good care of me. I felt really close to Noid and enjoyed watching the sea…. oh and the ice cream at Camps Bay.
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• We had high tea at the Mount Nelson which was wonderful. It was everything I had imagined…. and more.
• I started my own Book Club called WOW! (Woman of worth) that meet once a month.
• I arranged gifts for an old age home in memory of my first mom in law, Muriel Cadger.
• My hair that I had been growing for six years – cut short.
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• I made a milk tart. Thank Mercia for the recipe. 🙂
• I danced with Noid and his first wife, Cal. Noid said it was a ‘mind fuck’ hahahah.

2. Did you keep your New Years’ resolutions, and will you make more for next year?

I had two resolutions for 2011:

1. Not to weigh myself for an entire year. (failed)
2.  To have a family home with my husband and my six kids. (done)

For 2012, I have two resolutions:

1. Lose the weight I gained through no excercise, chronic pain and eating  – expecially since my ass is appparently so big, it spills into the theatre seat next to me, giving that person no space.
2. Learn to accept and let go.

3. Did anyone close to you give birth?

My friend Cindy is due any minute now. 🙂

4. Did anyone close to you die?

My first pet ever, baby Gaga died of liver failure. I was truly, sincerely crushed.

5. What countries did you visit?

South Africa, Zambia, Lesotho and Zimbabwe.

6. What would you like to have in 2012 that you lacked in 2013?

1. Strength – both physically and mentally
2. Sex and lots of it, as Shirley Valentine would say!
3. A spirit of acceptance and letting go.

7. What dates from 2011 will remain etched upon your memory?

2 December 2012 – Day my kids moved to their respective fathers for very different, but good reasons.

8. What was your biggest achievement of the year?

I don’t think mine was a year of achievements, but letting go of work when I knew I wasn’t coping could be an achievements and doing the right thing for my kids, letting them go, may be an achievement. 

9. What was your biggest failure?

Focussing too much on the people around me and not looking after those closest to me.

10. Did you suffer illness or injury?

This has been the year of INSANE CRAP health. I am at the stage where I don’t care what illness I have, I just don’t want to be in pain.

11. What was the best thing you bought?

My car! Wenchy GP.

12. Whose behaviour merited celebration?

The company I work (or worked – I don’t know anymore) for has been so supportive.

13. Whose behaviour made you appalled and depressed?

Our elopment damaged many friendships. I lost some friendship… I feel sad that my friends judged me, instead of saying I don’t agree, but I will support you. I miss them.

14. Where did most of your money go?

We travelled quite a bit this year and our new home was kitted out from top to bottom with new furniture, appliances etc – we started afresh. Noid works incredibly hard for every small thing that comes into this house.

15. What did you get really, really, really excited about?

Buying my car was exciting beyond belief, I could choose whatever I liked…… and have the number plate I wanted.  I chose a South African made car because I am a seriously proudly South African, a red (there is no purple) Renault Sandero Stepway.

16. What song/album will always remind you of 2011?

Bowling for Soup’ song 1985.

Springsteen, Madonna
Way before Nirvana
There was U2 and Blondie
And music still on MTV
Her two kids in high school
They tell her that she’s uncool
Cause she’s still preoccupied
With 1985

Woohoohoo

17. Compared to this time last year, are you:

• Happier or sadder? Happier in a different way. I feel I have reached a place inside myself that is comfortable.
• Thinner or fatter? Fatter.
• Richer or poorer? Richer in so many ways.

18. What do you wish you’d done more of?

Spending time with friends and family…. I seldom want to go but I usually end up having a great time and am glad I went. I wish I was a more fun Mom….. and I wish I honoured the woman inside me, instead of becoming an illness.

19. What do you wish you’d done less of?

Seeing doctors, paying for medicine.

20. How will you be spending Christmas?

Noid and I will be spending the day with his folks. (My Mom cancelled Christmas the year my father died) We are cooking a three course meal….  It is his parents last Christmas in Gauteng before they retire to Swellendam early next year and we hope they will feel special.  

21. Who did you spend the most time on the phone with?

I still detest speaking on the phone….. but I’ve actually spoken to my Mom most this year.

22. Did you fall in love in 2011?

Is marriage not falling in love with the same person all the time?

 23. How many one night stands in this last year?

All my nights were spend with Noid, clothed or not.

24. What was your favourite TV program?

I really enjoyed The Mentalist. 

25. Do you hate anyone now that you didn’t hate this time last year?

For the first time ever, I can say I don’t hate anyone.

26. What was the best book(s) you read?

The Whisperer by Donato Carrisi.

27. What was your greatest musical discovery?

Adele. Her beautiful voice and her being out there doing her thing while not looking like a stick figure.

28. What did you want and get?

My car! …. and a tiny camera for my bag….. and many other things! It was a year of blessings amongst the physical pain.

29. What did you want and not get?

Healing for whatever is wrong with me physically.

30. What were your favourite films of this year?

Tangled.

31. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?

I turned 38 and once again blew out 14 candles as I am going to be 14 forever. My birthday was celebrated at the JHB Zoo with a picnic with friends and family. Jax made me a gorgeous purple giraffe cake. 🙂

32. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?

A correct diagnosis and medication to fix it. Laughing with my kids.

33. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2011?

I have no concept of fashion. I wear whatever comes in purple. 🙂

34. What kept you sane?

Xanor kept me stable, not sane. LOL

35. Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most?

Sharon Osborne.

36. What political issue stirred you the most?

A government-proposed “Protection of Information Bill” that would prevent the disclosure of information deemed harmful to the “national interest”.

37. Who did you miss?

I miss my Mom and my sister, Rentia. I wish they lived closer.

38. Who was the best new person you met?

Natasja who is a friend of Kevin, Matthew’s mom. Patricia who is an angel.

39. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2011.

You can’t buy good health.

40. Quote a song lyric that sums up your year?

Don’t forget me, I begged
I remember you said,
Sometimes it lasts in love but sometimes it hurts instead.

– Someone like you by Adele

I wish you enough,

Wenchy