The day I said YES to myself!


Dear friends and other interesting creatures,

It was the scariest and bravest thing I ever did…. I left.

I was 24 years old with 2 small boys and thought to myself,  “I don’t care if we are alone forever, but we won’t be here…. and I’ll never be afraid of Friday again.”

Happy Friday darlings!

I wish you enough,

The Cosby’s


Dear friends and other interesting creatures,

Some say the picture is distasteful.  Some say Bill Cosby has varied taste in his victims.  Some question if the woman are truthful. Some say he is innocent until proven guilty. Some say,  “if it was my daughter….”

Personally, I think it’s a powerful picture. Social media commentary confirms how we buy into perception. Surely not OUR Bill Cosby? Family, funny man who makes that cute smile. Why not Bill Cosby? We bought into a character he plays.  We don’t know him off set. We do not know his 3am demons.

Has the death of Robin Williams taught us nothing? You cannot see inside the soul of another.  LYou cannot see their darkness. What we see is what producers want us to see. 

Do not confuse playing a character, a role, with the unshakable character of the man himself.

Be Cosby guilty or not,  I do not know. I do know I never expected Robin Williams to leave this world the way he did.

Not everything that shines is gold.

I wish you enough,

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A bit of fun… old chap.

Dear friends and other interesting creatures,

A bit of random fun before I head to Victoria’s 16th birthday celebration!!

1 Hair down or up? Up in summer, highly dependant on mood in winter.

2 Jeans or yogas? Jeans mostly but I seriously have no issue going shopping in my PJ’s. Once you have purple hair, or any other obscure issue people can focus on, they tend to just focus on the one thing. Home free darling!

3 Painted or non-painted nails? Matching colour nail polish on my fingers and toes. Usually a shade a purple.

4 Favourite color? Purple.

5 T-shirt or dress shirt? T-shirt. I don’t like to wear collared shirts. Makes me feel like I’m the one being dominated and I don’t know the safe word. 

6 Flip flops or sneakers? Flip flops. Love me a flip flop. Have to show off that pedicure.

7 Big purse or small? Medium size that I can hang across my body so my hands are free. I need my hands to talk, touch things, do my lipstick, arms to hug people. Very touchy (more so if you give good hugs).

8 Tattoos? I have been inked 26 times so far. I have a personal goal to achieve before I do the next one which will be to celebrate my love for my daughter, born from my heart, Kyla.

9 Piercings? Only my ears. Three on my left, two at the bottom on the right with one on the top.

10 Diamonds or pearls? As I got older… diamonds.

11 Favourite animal? Giraffes.

12 Favourite food? Anything I didn’t have to cook? Rare steak is a winner. Fine Dining.

13 Rap or country music? Country music. Yeah, yeah!

14 Height? 1.65m

15 Sports or Couch? At school I loved playing sports. I don’t mourn when I don’t watch of game of whatever and I can’t say the couch truly appeals to me either. Theatre? Coffee shop watching people can be a sport. I play that.

It would be great if you could swipe my answers, and leave yours in the comment section. – Yay!!

I wish you a onesie!!

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Celebrating my talents, managing my weaknesses.


Dear friends and other interesting creatures,

It’s Tuesday! Every Tuesday Johan Oosthuizen and I embrace exploring my natural talents, while teaching me how to manage my weaknesses. It took me months after doing the initial test before I committed to allowing someone,  trained,  professional and kick ass to please help me be a better version of me.

I so regret I wasn’t able to do this for my kids,  but you can!

I’ve spent six years seeing psychologist which helped, but this is only my third session with Johan and ME getting to know ME, why I instinctively do what I do and why some things drain me by design.  My time with Strength Finder has rendered far more beneficial, real time ah hah! moments than traditional therapy.  Im hooked. I want to know more about who Wenchy is.

Positive psychology is changing my life and the soul satisfaction and energy I’m receiving is without measure.

Johan Oosthuizen 
Cell: 082 829-3277
Skype: johan-oosthuizen

Btw, no money is exchanged for this blog,  I’m just wanting to share what I’ve experienced with anyone open to knowing the why?

I wish you enough,

She is 16, going on 17….

Somewhere in my youth,  or childhood… I must have done something good.
– The Sound Of Music 💙


To my darling little chicken,

There is much I can write about your unique talents, your quick sense of humour and how you changed our world.

Instead,  I will write that without you I’d be poorer in spirit,  I would be lonely in being misunderstood and I would own more clothing.

You know you said you want no embarrassing stories? 

Well,  here is one for you.  I’m your Mom and there ain’t nothing you can do about it missy!!

This song was played at your blessing :

“Forever Young” –  Bob Dylan

May God bless and keep you always
May your wishes all come true
May you always do for others
And let others do for you
May you build a ladder to the stars
And climb on every one
May you stay forever young
Forever young, forever young
May you stay forever young.

May you grow up to be righteous
May you grow up to be true
May you always know the truth
And see the lights surrounding you
May you always be courageous
Stand upright and be strong
May you stay forever young
Forever young, forever young
May you stay forever young.

May your hands always be busy
May your feet always be swift
May you have a strong foundation
When the winds of changes shift
May your heart always be joyful
And may your song always be sung
May you stay forever young
Forever young, forever young
May you stay forever young.

I wish you the best parts of me,

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Why we marry men for their nice thighs. Oh and patience.


SirNoid beautifully styled in his birthday PJ’s cuddling my cat,  LadyCayte.

Dear friends and other interesting creatures,

My laptop screen said cheers… Immediately after I had moved all my mail to the pst folders (my mail sync with my phone and the mailbox was full).  I also downloaded all the pics off my phone from my #DiscoverMcGregor trip and my #NAF2015 adventures to my laptop.

Great, I can’t access email older than this afternoon, as it is stored locally on the laptop. I have invites I have accepted but not put into my electronic calendar yet. So I don’t know what I’ve accepted for when. Posduif?

No we don’t have a spare screen. I can borrow you a random child though? We cover most age groups.

To SirNoid’s credit he did handle my dysfunctional, “Oh holy shit!” moment quite well. The loud Portuguese side of me never let’s me down. Bat shit crazy Wenchy.

SirNoid said we will somehow sort it out. Very calm. Everything I was not feeling. He is good like that.  Making things happen.  Me…  Mmmmm. See why I have a strength coach?  More about Johan soon! Two sessions and I’m already realising how to focus on my strengths and not my weaknesses.  Bat shit crazy may be a weakness.  Will let you know.

Huge thanks to SirNoid who recognised my need to soar and manage my….  weaknesses is such a strong word! 🙂

Really do not need this expense right now. Like not at all. Victoria is turning 16 dammit!

I wish you enough,


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To Sir, With love.


From a cold and slightly misty Grahamstown just before 2am ….

I want to wish my husband, friend,  lover, provider, cheerleader, nurse, protector, taxi driver, perfume buyer, tea making, shoulder dancing, brilliant, sexy, funny, generous, coffee drinking, tattooed, road less travelled exploring, Herman Charles Bosman story telling, awesome dad to our kids, guard of my pain levels, hard working, DSTV controlling, perfect rare steak chef, lover of ice, Cheetah supporting, #ClashOfClans leading, South Africa loving, man with awesome thighs, shouting at the TV person,  who will never walk alone…


Love you!
Your dear wife

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Missing you comes in waves. Tonight I’m drowning.


My liefste Oupa Mike,

Sometimes I am consumed by overwhelming joy, just because of how you loved me. Sometimes I see Frisco coffee or Turkish Delight and am able to smile in gratitude and remembrance. Other times objects, sounds and memories is a raw, open wound.

To you I had no faults. If there were, you would make light of them as if such things could never taint me. I was beautiful, funny, talented and you always reminded me how proud you are of me. I never truly felt I deserved your praise…. but I loved bathing in your reflection of me.

Tonight the years since we lost you to death feels like decades. I want to bury my face in your chest,  cry and you would stroke my hair and kiss my forehead. I miss you intensely. I hope my life brings you some pride…. and a bit of a brag. 🙂

The only thing worse than my own heartache is seeing my Mammie in so much emotional pain.  I envy Mammie for she had you longer, but her ache for you leaves me breathless. I feel helpless.

I hope my impact on people when I leave this reality will be as profound.  I would have achieved much, if I touched people the way you did.

Baie lief vir Oupa….en dankie.
Stel x