The River 

The summers were sweltering. Walking towards a braai fire to greet you, I remember the extra warmth of the fire clearly. I remember your smile and the true happiness as we said hello.

You had clearly already started the Merry part of Christmas. I expected nothing less. You always were more of a bottle than a glass kind of guy. The Vaal river was running strong behind the trees and it soothed our souls. 

I hear the laughter coming from the kitchen. Hands clapping. My face exploding in a smile as I enter the house and I know I had been spotted. Hugs so pure and with such delight that it had the power to raise the dead. 

All was well in the world.

Even if contact was broken over long periods of time, I always knew you loved me, as I loved you. It was a rare connection. 

I think of you and the river, with a hole in my heart, a tear in my eye and a smile playing on my lips as I close my eyes. I’m a “monkey’s wedding”. Raining with sunshine.

Since you left this earth earlier this year, I’ve been more aware of you. Somehow you are closer. I’ve told nobody for the fear of sounding more absurd than usual. Maybe I needed the shoulder to lean on. Thank you for lingering.

Even though we both know you were not an angel, I felt safe knowing you are in my world. The landscape is forever changed.

I know now that the river had nothing to do with soothing our souls. It was the people that surrounded us with their love, acceptance and our sense of belonging. The laughter, catching fish and swimming with frogs is gone. Those hugs that could raise the dead, has died. 

Just as we were, in that moment, we were enough.
Stel x

PS. “Jy weet mos”. 

Relax..then do it.

Dear friends and other interesting creatures,

​Would love to read your answers.

1. Are you named after someone? Yes, my Ouma Chrissie and my Oupa Mike. Christel-Michel I have always loved my name as I adored my Grandparents.

The little girl me.

2. When is the last time you cried? Yesterday, seeing my 20 year old son, Liam James after four months, I made an ugly cry face. I was so incredibly happy.

My Liam James and I

3. Do you like your handwriting? Not anymore. Ankolysing Spondylitis  is affecting my hands and sometimes it hurts to write. 

4. What is your favorite lunch meat? Ham with a pinch of English mustard.

5. Do you have any children? Many ! The original cast that I grew my own self is Kev  (23) Liam James  (20) and Victoria  (17).. then Nicholas  (26), Douglas (16) and Jenna-Lee (13) is my children gained when I married @SirNoid. He gained Kyle (23) and Kyla (23). …. on then I have #wenchyskids all over the Internet.  💜 @SirNoid says I collect kids.

7. Do you use sarcasm? Sarcasm is the poor man’s wit, so no.

8. Do you still have your tonsils? Nope.

9. Would you bungee jump? Medically, my well paid rheumatologist would kick my ass … and personally I think my breasts would knock me out. So …. no!

10. What is your favorite kind of cereal? Strawberry Pops which I have not had in about two years.

11. Do you untie your shoes when you take them off? No. I’m often barefoot. I don’t like shoes. 

12. Do you think you are strong?  Physically I was much stronger 20 years ago. Mentally and psychologically I know I am stronger than what I give myself credit for.

13. What is your favorite ice cream? @HaagenDazs_SA Pralines and cream 

#HDHealthyOption @HaagenDazs_SA

14. What is the first thing you notice about people? If their smile reaches their eyes.

15. Football or Rugby? Football. #YNWA

16. What is the least favorite thing you like about yourself? My stomach. Hate it.

17. What color pants are you wearing now? Jean pant colout

18. What was the last thing you ate? An apple round midnight.

19. What are you listening to right now? Birds, cars, city type noise.

20. If you were a crayon, what color would you be? Purple.

21. Favorite Flavour? Caramel

22. Who was the last person you spoke to on the phone?  Victoria’s bae, Jeandré 

Jeandré & Victoria

23. Favorite sport to watch? Tour De France, Football #YNWA and Formula One.
24. What is your hair colour? Purple 💜


25. Eye color? Brown
27. Favorite food to eat? Pork Belly at the moment.

28. Scary movies or happy endings? Happy endings 

29. Last movie you watched? The Martian

I wish you enough,


Celebrity Chefs Table Hosted at DAVINCI Hotel & Suites

Dear friends and other interesting creatures,

I was very privileged to have attended this event and it was an exquisite evening, @SirNoid and I will never forget.

Truly special.

I wish you enough,

Legacy Hotels


Ten celebrity guests were treated to a unique chefs table dinner at the DAVINCI Hotel & Suites hosted on Saturday, 3 December 2016, hosted by Executive Chef Sylvester Nair.

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Cruelty free.

Dear friends and other interesting creatures,

I received a press release with information I thought some of you may be interested in.

I’m love Sorbet, and do want to keep my readers in the loop. Unfortunately my happy place of beauty, Sorbet Fourways does not have a Sorbet Drybar  but the therapists at Sorbet Killarney Mall is lovely. In a moment of need, it is a quick in and out and you look fabulous, without having made an appointment. My daughter Victoria’s hair is super long and very difficult to wash and dry, so for a special occassion it is a great spoil.

Cherry Blossom Flowers Shampoo & Conditioner

I wanted to share with you that PETA have endorsed the Brazilian hair care products from INOAR which you can purchase at your local Sorbet Dry Bar, or online – including the very popular Cherry Blossom Flowers Range.

Instead of animals, INOAR only uses vegetable-based ingredients in their formulations. This is why INOAR has been included in PETA’s list of cruelty free companies.

PETA (People for the Ethical Treatment of Animals) is a nonprofit corporation created in 1980, which has over 5 million members, and is dedicated to animal rights. PETA’s motto reads: “Animals are not ours to eat, wear, experiment on, use for entertainment or abuse in any other way.”

Don’t say I don’t keep you informed. 🙂

I wish you enough,