Nocturnal Wenchy

African Hips Don't Lie

Courage is found in unlikely places.

Dear friends and other interesting creatures,

Yesterday marked 20 years since the bravest day of my life.

I was a young mom with a four-year-old Kev and a baby Liam James and left my marriage of seven years, a relationship that ran the space of a decade.

I desperately wanted the white picket fence. I so wanted what I did not have growing up. The bare essentials of what constituted the dream were there, but my dream did not include violent, drunken, abusive behaviour.

A nightmare is what I woke up to for the majority of that life. An ill-equipped me who felt desperate to breathe, to escape while terrified. I did not think about feeling “happy”, I just wanted to feel “safe”, unafraid – I wanted my sons to know that this was not what marriage should be like.

Nothing about leaving that situation was remotely easy. It was brutal on every level. I had no money, I had two young children and my family was far away…  but I also had an iron will that this would not be my life.

My life was exposed for all the world to judge. I did it alone and was exhausted to my core. People did judge, I honestly did not care. They had no idea as to the details of my daily life. To this day I care little for public opinion.

Looking back, my only regret is that I didn’t do it sooner.

Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.
-Jim Morrison

I wish you enough

5 responses to “Courage is found in unlikely places.”

  1. Woo-hoo! I also regret not leaving earlier!

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  2. I regret the time I wasted clinging to a dream that was never going to be a reality. You do not get the time back. Nobody gives you a medal.

    I’m glad you made a decision that made your life better. x


  3. Beautiful. Your strength led you to a place where happiness lives.


    1. I’ve realised that happiness lives in me and not in people or places. I’ve never regretted that decision.

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  4. So true. I have long shared that sentiment. Way too many people look for something or someplace to make them when the happy place is in them all the time waiting to be embraced and loved.


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Mom to many, wife to SirNoid. Lover of water, walks in the shade and all things purple.

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