Nocturnal Wenchy

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Searching for the spirit of the great blogger.

Dear friends and other interesting creatures,


I did not start blogging for recognition 22 years ago, or to be regarded as influential. I did not start blogging for invitations to events, private parties or functions with famous people. I did not start blogging because I wanted “free stuff” (no such thing exists btw).

I love being a Social Media Diva experiencing exotic dishes and meeting fabulous people, attending world-class productions, informative and inspirational events or making a difference in highlighting causes and projects that I believe in. I enjoy collaborating with brands and friends, either enhancing my financial situation or sometimes I experience moments money cannot buy. Oh, there has been so many of those over the past six years! … but this has never been my motivating factor.


My reason for writing is that I have always felt the need to document my life. I am not saying I am a remarkable writer. I am saying I have a deep need in my soul to write. My reason for writing is to heal my broken. My reason for writing is to understand why I do the things I do. My reason for writing is wanting to remember funny things. My reason for writing is because I want to remember overcoming the moments I stood knocking on death’s door to please let me in. I write for my joy, for my pain, for my confusion, for my entertainment, for my erotic mind, for the release of all the flicker in my soul.


My reason for blogging, making my writing public is because deep down I’m a pin-up girl with a loud voice who wants to be acknowledged, celebrated and enjoyed. I want all the attention, all the glitter baby! I want to push boundaries. I want people to be both fascinated and intrigued. I want to post questionable content because it makes people uncomfortable and I want them to examine why they feel the way they do. I want people to know that they are not alone when the world feels overwhelming. I want to share books I enjoyed, the movies I love, food I couldn’t say no to…. living out loud!


I blog because I have a deep need to connect with people. I blog because I want to relate to individuals who have shared experiences similar to mine and learn from those I do not understand. I blog because I want people to question. I blog because I hope sharing my experience may give someone else hope. I blog because I love sharing information. I blog because it makes me feel alive.(It remains a very popular concept!) I blog because it links me to the reader. I blog because I’ve met my best and closest friends online.

I blog because it is a coffee chat with the people who live inside my online world.


In the past few years, blogging has become digital marketing. It is no longer a space to share your truth. Everyone screams authenticity and pick me at the same time. All platforms are judged on suitable content creation, stats and views… if the PR person likes you it helps. If you are the only person writing about one specific topic in an awesome way, winner! It is all about how influential you are perceived to be.


If you like a product, is that enough to make other people buy it? What value do you bring to those who follow you or like your page? What is the return on investment to the brand?

Are you acceptable and presentable to the person representing the brand as well as the PR company deciding who makes the cut? In the end, these are all humans making decisions with likes and dislikes, preferences for certain personalities – all human concepts.


I would love to continue my Social Media Diva journey but partnered with the reasons I started blogging in the first place.

Today… I’m just a Wench, standing in front of an audience asking for acceptance and encouragement, with the vulnerability to be authentic with bravery and passion trusting your engagement with my truth.


I wish you enough,


5 responses to “Searching for the spirit of the great blogger.”

  1. I see a whole lot of bleeding on the page above Babes.
    Well written and amazing.

    I love your authentic self and everyone you take the time to write about or support is incredibly lucky to have you.

    Liked by 1 person

  2. I loved reading this blog. It is beautiful and inspirational. Thank you.

    Liked by 1 person

  3. Elsandra Gouws avatar
    Elsandra Gouws

    Please don’t stop blogging – I love reading your blogs.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Thank you so very, very much. That is very special.


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Mom to many, wife to SirNoid. Lover of water, walks in the shade and all things purple.

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