Dance me to the end of love.

Dear friends and other interesting creatures,

My life has never been uneventful. Things have happened to me in life that I did not want and did not deserve. Just like you.

wenchy

I’ve also allowed events and encouraged people to happen to me. Good and bad! My stupidity in motion can be exceptional for the level of intelligence inside this beautiful hurricane I am.

There has been a great amount of deep sorrow, regret and insurmountable heartache in my life. Perhaps also for you.

wenchy

I’ve learned that pain demands to be felt. Grieving people I have loved that I have lost to both life and death. Grieving my own doing at times There is no way around it. The only way is through.

I don’t believe that “what doesn’t kill you make you stronger”. What a silly statement. What doesn’t kill you simply wasn’t strong enough to kill you. Duh.

wenchy

At the same time, my life has held unimaginable joy, spontaneous, unbelievable pleasure and massive amounts of adventure and buckets full of grace. In the same way, happiness demands to be felt. Just like pain. Celebrated without shame!

wenchy

I aim to reach the very core of every experience and emotion. I didn’t know this at the time, but I’ve realised with intense therapy, self-assessment and reflection that I’ve actually done this all my life. If it is a positive or a negative situation, I would put on the cloak and wear it out. Till it fell off me in slithers. No glitter guys. I am my own worst judge, jury and bondage, master.

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Regardless, I’m often overcome with overwhelming, overflowing, huge rushes of unexplainable feelings of love, joy, laughter, gratitude and thanksgiving. I find myself not knowing how to contain my happy and it will come rolling down my cheeks and my eyes will see anew.

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I love being alive! I’m so delighted I’m here to drink bubbles, cry and perform in my car when music is beautiful, quiver under the touch, hug my kids and people I connect with and get slapped on the ass as I leave the room. Eat exquisite food, taste a foreign liquid and appreciate it for what it is, stand in the rain, hear laughter – often my own loudly. Just being physically touched or when somebody chooses to spend their precious time with me. So much joy! What a wonderful delight!

You honestly have no idea as to my level of abundant love for life, loving and giving, and how close I’ve been to losing it this year. Twice.

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To everyone who loves me in their own special way, who supports in a million different ways, who lights my way, who brings me joy, who tries to lighten the load – thank you.

Hayley Joy and Liza Clifford you came out of nowhere and changed everything! It is so much more than a collaboration when your heart connects.

From the man who has worked so hard to be who he is today, who sleeps next to me, to my many, many magical children, to friends across the world I have never met who continues to walk with me. Thank you.

wenchy

Sincerely, I wish you enough,

Wenchy

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PS. Let me not write a Thanksgiving letter now. It is not time yet.

wenchy

Women who know their fit have more fun! Liza Clifford Bra Fitting Expert

Dear friends and other interesting creatures,

After setting up a bit of a “help me out” poll on my personal Facebook as to my next Liza Clifford Bra Fitting Expert purchase, I had to share some of my #PerfectFit journey with you. Thank you to everyone who got so involved and given me your opinions!

Liza Clifford started her business in 2011. She is passionate about fitting clients with the best possible bra size in a product of the highest quality available. The company now has fitting rooms in Pretoria, Johannesburg and Durban with travelling mobile studios extending their services all over our beautiful country.  Ladies of all ages are fitted by appointment without interruptions. My fitting was done by Cwayita at their Illovo Studio in Johannesburg. What a blessing she was.

I want to confess something.

The night before I was due to go for my fitting my bipolar self whispered to me. “These kind of nice things are not for people like us”. Honest truth. I did not feel worthy. I did not feel enough. I almost cancelled my appointment. My husband, @SirNoid encouraged me to breathe … and step into the light.

Fitting for a perfect bra is so much more than a tape measure. Cwayita listened to my every concern. Every size breast comes with its own concerns, questions. Your consultant listens to your every question. I found Cwayita very well informed and taught me so much about support, what makes a bra right for me and how the perfect fit would make all the difference. Lift and fit!

Liza Clifford

Cwayita had me try on a sports bra. I’m a plus-size woman who put on a sports bra that fitted me in such a way that I could literally jump and my breasts did not knock me out. Okay, that is a bit of a joke and usually my line as to why I do not Bungy jump. 🙂 I have never felt that level of breast support and I was sold.

I adore pretty matching underwear but find it hard to find something that makes me feel super sexy. Plus size woman have not had a great deal of options in pretty clothing or fabulous underwear. It just so happened that Hayley Joy Shop and Lizza Clifford blessed my life in a matter of weeks. A million bucks of blessings are being rained upon me!! An attitude of gratitude.

A fitting is R350. Worth every cent. This amount is deducted from your first purchase. Once you have decided upon your items, you pay a 25% deposit which books your order as your purchase is being imported. You get a month or two to save up before your order arrives.

Personally, I think you need three bras. One you are wearing, one in the wash and one in the cupboard. If you are working out, I would ideally like to have two sports bras because I sweat. Which is kinda the idea with working out! Not a lipstick activity.

Liza Clifford

If you are really blessed, there is a fabulous voucher option which hopefully everyone who loves you will use at once!

You can contact Liza Clifford on Twitter, Instagram and Facebook … and by phone: 0861 333 77 9.

That said, I’ll build this empire looking snazzy outside and inside, no matter how long it takes. 🙂

I wish you enough,

Wenchy

 

Movie Review: Abominable

A magical Yeti must return to his family.
My son Liam James and I attended the preview of Abominable at Egrek Cinema in Parkhurst. If you have not visited this privately owned Cinema, do yourself a favour and book around sunset, the view from the Cinema Lounge is phenomenal.
From the studio that brought you How to Train Your Dragon, embark an epic 2,000-mile adventure from the streets of Shanghai to the breathtaking Himalayan snowscapes.
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It was such a special movie and I cried at the end. It was the perfect movie to remind you that home is not a place, it is the people we love. I clutched Liam’s hand and he stroked my hair.
Suitable for all ages! 💜 Distinctive, emotive characters with the most amazing animation. Gorgeous, detailed scenes and a stunning film score. GO SEE IT! 😊

I wish you enough,

Wenchy

#AbominableMovie
UIP Africa
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Review : Pictionary Air™

Dear friends and other interesting creatures,

“Quick Sketches, Hillarious Guesses”

When I was a teenager back in 1985 when this ultimate party game hit, I was not a Pictionary fan. I cannot draw anything more exciting than a stick figure … and I just didn’t like looking silly.

These days I don’t mind poking fun at my not so gifted attributes so bring it on!

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UPsize your sleep

Dear friends and other interesting creatures,

I’d given up on the 40 winks illusion around the time of my 10th birthday. Which technically means I’ve been sleep deprived for 36 years.

No wonder I’ve made the odd mistake. Like that first ex-husband. I clearly didn’t know what I was agreeing too. I was a beautiful bride, however.

It is estimated that 35% of Americans suffer from chronic insomnia. I wonder what the statistics for South Africa will be?

My gorgeous sister lives in Florida in the USA and besides the heat, she is not suffering from lack of sleep. She has air conditioning!

Back home in suburbia in South Africa, you may just get comfy, roughly throw your leg over your partner, let out a big sigh (the same one you make when you take your bra off at the end of the day) and bam the thought hits you… “Did I lock the back door?”

You will reason with yourself… but in the end, you will get up and go check. Yes, it is locked. Immediately you remind yourself that you have joined #ImStaying and you honestly should be more positive!

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