Ongetroud met rugby, maar lief vir die lewe.

Geliefde vriende en alle interessante wesens,

Vanoggend toe ek Huisgenoot se nuusbrief lees en die opskrif sien,

Gewilde Getroud met Rugby-akteur verlief en verloof!

was my eerste gevoel. Nee David, hoe kan jy my niks hiervan vertel nie! Ons is dan vriende! …. en toe sien ek met verligting, dis ons geliefde David Vlok wat hom so romanties hou. Baie geluk aan David en sy verloofde, Joanika Haasbroek. Ek wens julle alles wat mooi is vir die toekoms.

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Ek het David Louw ‘n jaar of so terug vir die eerste keer by ‘n media geleentheid ontmoet. Later het ek ‘n foto van hom gesien in ‘n meer erstige rol, en ek moes net vir myself outvind wat sit agter die man. Ek sou baie teleurgesteld gewees het, as hy net mooi oe, glimglag en spiere was! Gelukkig is daar baie meer aan onse, geen pretensie, David.

David en ek het filosofie, godsdiens, drama, familie en natuurlik sport en rugby gepraat. David is ‘n diep seun gebore in Vrede in die Vrystaat. Ons gesprek was op tye ‘n ernstig debat. Ander oomblikke het ons so gelag, dat ander defnetief gewens het hulle was ek!

David het ‘n manier om met jou te praat asof jy die enigste mens in die wereld is … en wys my iemand wat nie van onverdeelde aandag hou nie!

Hy vertel ‘n storie soos ‘n ou legende en jy kan nie help om weggevoer te word in sy stoutgat lag en passie vir die lewe nie.

Maar, kom ons praat bietjie oor sy loopbaan.

David Louw se lewe is tans in eerste rat. Die gewilde Getroud met Rugby akteur se dagboek word net al hoe voller, met onder andere drie groot projekte wat in die tweede helfte van die jaar en begin-2018 vir hom wag.

In Junie 2018 beplan David om aan die Ironman kompetisie in Durban deel te neem. Alhoewel hierdie spesifieke een net die “halwe” Ironman genoem word, is dit nog steeds ‘n uitmergelende 1.9km swem, 90km fietsry en 21.1km se hardloop.

Self, is daar natuurlik geen manier wat ek dit sou aandurf nie.

David het al voorheen die volle Ironman gedoen. “Die aanvanklike plan was om reeds hierdie jaar deel te neem, maar as gevolg van ‘n “Achilles’ heel” besering was ek genoodsaak om dit uit te stel na volgende jaar,” noem David, wat reeds op skool as sportman uitgeblink het. “Ek is gek oor enige iets wat my uithouvermoë toets, iets wat vir my wys hoe vêr ek myself fisies en geestelik kan druk,” vervolg hy. “Sport leer jou discipline, iets wat my verseker help in die industrie waarin ek is.

Buiten vir Craven Week Rugby, het David ook provinsiale klere verwerf in letterlik elke denkbare sport op skool.

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Min mense weet van die kinderproduksies wat David vervaardig, en wat landswyd by kleuterskole, laerskole en hoërskole opgevoer word. By eersgenoemde word die kleuter gehelp om sy/haar verbeelding te ontwikkel deur hulle op ‘n “magic journey” te vat, waar by laer – en hoërskole die fokus meer op probleem temas is wat by daardie spesifieke skool van toepassing is.

Hierdie onderwerpe sluit onder andere boelies, selfrespek en gesondheid in. “Die uitvoerende kunste is so ‘n magtige medium wat tot ieder en elk spreek, maak nie saak hoe jonk of hoe oud jy is nie,” vertel David. “Deur my Produksiehuis wil ek ‘n boodskap bring wat relevant is, en ‘n verskil kan maak onder jong mense. Dis vir my baie spesiaal.

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Later vanjaar maak David sy debuut as mede-vervaardiger van ‘n grootskerm film, ‘n projek wat hom baie na aan die hart lê. Die produksie, wat grotendeels nog in geheim gehou word, het reeds van Suid-Afrika se grootste name aan boord, en beoog om ‘n nuwe en vars wending te bring in plaaslik-vervaardigde films.

Sedert sy rol as Petrus Steyn in “Villa Rosa” (KykNET), het David homself bewys as een van Suid-Afrika se mees gerespekteerde akteurs.

Buiten vir TV het hy ook al verskeie films agter sy naam, insluitend “Wolwedans in die Skemer” (2012), “Forsaken” (2015) en meer onlangs “Modder en Bloed” (2016). Hy is tans te sien as Simon Greeff in “Getroud met Rugby” (KykNET).

‘n Huildronk op die toekoms David! “Still or sparkling boet?

INGU

Ek wens jou genoeg,

Wεทchy ¸.¸. ҉¨

Now Following You 

Dear friends and other interesting creatures, 

Not surprising it has been my online activity that has kept me from finishing Fiona Snyckers book, “Now Following You”,  sooner! 

Social Media addict Jamie and level headed Pumla are the co-owners and operators of a coffee shop in the suburbs. 

Although Jamie’s background is in hospitality,  she is a writer at heart who is using blogging as a tool to gain exposure in the hopes of having her book published.

Successful business woman Pumla is searching for a “baby daddy” in her desperate quest to be seen as an achiever by her family where only bearing children counts. 

“Hot Running Guy”, Tom is an emotionally, overprotective single Father to his adopted toddler son Ben who lives next door to recreational runner and cat loving Jamie. 

Add in a calculated, creepy stalker who uses Social Media to track his prey and the plot it set as these characters become intertwined in each others lives. 

Never underestimate what some bloggers will do for exposure… even risk their own lives and those they love. 

Perhaps Jamie’s book is being written as life unfolds around her, and not in the posts she blogs daily. 

– Wenchy

A most enjoyable and recommended read that touches on our ever changing and engaging digital living including the joys and potential dangers it holds. 

It reflects on how extended family and society deal with cross cultural adoption, blended families and off course, love, sex and two minute noodles. 

I could identify completely with the main characters need to share information and interact online. I felt the chill of the stalker close to her. Loving a child that grew in your heart and not your body is a personal experience for me…  and my life is one giant blend of love, sex and a dislike of two minute noodles! 

I am on a local author binge at the moment and talent is abundant! 

For an authentic and truthful review of your book on my blog, Amazon and Goodreads, please do mail me at wenchy@mweb.co.za ☺️ 

I wish you enough, 

Wenchy 

From one Legend to another…

20170410_134416Dear friends and other interesting creatures,

My son, @liamjamescadger and I recently attended a rooftop party (nothing like a Wench on the town with her son who is legal!) at The Copper Bar, where we got down to doing The Salty Dog... we didn’t learn about THE Tom Collins until much later, so we had to skip.. even if he did arrive with a cherry on top!

Wikipedia has this to say about “this liquid legend“:

Gordon’s is a brand of London dry gin first produced in 1769. The top markets for Gordon’s are (in descending order) the United Kingdom, the United States and Greece.[1] It is owned by the British spirits company Diageo and is made in Scotland (although flavourings may be added elsewhere). It is the world’s best selling London Dry gin.[2] Gordon’s has been the UK’s number one gin since the late 19th century.[3]

The recipe for Gordon’s is known to only twelve people in the world and has been kept a secret for 250 years.[11] Triple-distilled, the gin contains juniper berries, coriander seeds, angelica root, liquorice, orris root, orange and lemon peel.[2] It takes ten days distillation after receiving the wheat to create a finished product of a bottle of Gordon’s Gin.[12] Gordon’s recipe differentiated from others at the time in that it didn’t add sugar, which other distillers had used to disguise impurities.[7] This made it a “dry” gin.[7]

In terms of clear spirits I’m usually on the vodka side of the bar, but I was pleasantly surprised with Gordon’s. It was subtle, not overpowering and mixed well with my standard favourite, orange juice. Yes, I will sip and try all things but may not necessarily finish the entire glass. I was thankful I had Liam James waiting in the wings to try all combinations with ample feedback! We really had a smashing afternoon.

The venue was ever so upmarket, beautifully decorated, stylish and refreshing, with platters of food that just kept appearing. All that was missing was a Palm leaf. I really do believe life might just be a tad more legendary with #GordonsLegends @GordonsGinSA . Especially when shared with people you love and wonderful memories are made!

Thank you for the invitation, it is an afternoon neither I, nor my son will soon forget. Sophisticated we sipped our gin, watching the sunset over the City Of Gold. Snacking on salmon… as one does.

PS.

A salty dog is a cocktail of Gordon’s gin, or vodka and grapefruit juice, served in a highball glass with a salted rim. The salt is the only difference between a salty dog and a greyhound. Vodka may be used as a substitute for gin; nevertheless, it is historically a gin drink.

As for the THE Tom Collins … google him. He has a history. #wink

I wish you enough,

Wenchy

The Wonder Of You

Dear friends and other interesting creatures,

I looked at a friends Facebook timeline today and found myself comparing, wishing and wanting. Comparison is truly the thief of joy.

Then later, I opened a gift I was meant to fetch in January but was only in the area today to collect. The universe has a funny way,  for the message received is far for meaningful and apt today. I’m so grateful.

A sentimental, special gift of mala beads from my sister, @vickystephens now living in Marco Island, Florida, USA. She is a Yoga Goddess.

Yes, I cried.

My dearest Victoria Plum,

The missing of you is everywhere. From seeing the Ponte building, to Creme Soda and Fontana chicken pies at 2am on the pavement in Hillbrow.

As I smell the wooden beads, hold in my hand what have been in yours,  it brings an overwhelming feeling of gratitude, joy, connection and a love, a friendship that has never failed me.

I am exceedingly blessed to be loved by you. I can only ask forgiveness for wanting the worldly things I longed to have earlier today.

I may never again have what was once my joy, but some have never been loved with the depth and length that I have.

The wonder of you.

Namaste.

Stel.

This is her story.

Dear friends and other interesting creatures,

This post was written by Cara who needed a platform to let out her feelings about a baby girl she miscarried when she was 17 years old.

To my unborn child

I remember the day I met you and lost you all at once like it was burnt into the back of my mind with a hot poker. I remember thinking to myself that there is something wrong with me for not knowing you were there and for not being able to keep you there.

I am truly sorry for not listening to my body when the signs were there, and doing something when I did, instead of finding excuses.

But thank you. Thank you for the miracle and the adventure that you turned out to be. You showed me who I am, that I am not made of glass and taught me how to stand tall. You taught me how to stand up again when I couldn’t even find the strength to breath.

The thought of you is what has moulded me into the person I am today. The memory of you is my greatest inspiration.

I can say will full honesty that if it wasn’t for the loss of you, I would be a law student, fiancé or friend that I am today.

Your father wouldn’t be the man he is today, and I have never been more proud of who is and who he continues to grow into.

I love you with my whole heart and I miss you every day.

To my best friend and the father of my child

People have accused me of being many things but the mother to your child will be my greatest honour, no matter how many times it is said with the intention of using it as a weapon. No matter what, you will always be my greatest adventure, and I’m sorry it had to end this way.

There are many times that I regret how you found out that the only child you will ever have, is gone. I never regret that it happened though.

That is the thing about idolising someone so much. You dehumanise that person, creating something of a demigod. You could do no wrong. And it took the greatest tragedy for that to change. But im glad it did.

You have the most amazing fiancé that wouldn’t still be around if you hadn’t gone through the horror story of us. If you didn’t break down. If you didn’t show your vulnerable side. And im really glad you did.

To the fiancé

I will never be able to explain to you how deeply and truly thankful I am for looking after my angel boy. He will always be my first love and the person I go when things are bad, but I am grateful he has someone as strong and kind-hearted as you by his side building him back up in a way that nobody else ever could. I am sorry you had to go through the wreckage but I am truly grateful you stayed. You are the biggest blessing of this whole thing. Thank you for being the person who put all his pieces back together. Thank you for making him the man he is today. I’m sorry you got caught in the shrapnel. My heart will never be able to show you the gratitude for the guardian angel you have become and remain.

To the girl in the hospital room alone.

I want you to know there is nothing wrong with you, and you are in no way alone. This is a tragedy but it’s not the end. There is no amount of time that could change it and there is nothing that can be said to make it easier. But know that there is most definitely nothing wrong with you.

We live in a society where it has become normal to speak about traumatic events and the after effects but it’s not ok to speak up about a phenomenon that is happening in almost every household. The loss of a child.

1 in 4 pregnancies result in a miscarriage. There is nothing wrong with you. You are not alone.

You will learn to smile again without your hand drifting to your stomach and you will learn how to walk down the baby aisle without freezing and becoming starstruck at the possibility of something that was taken away from you.

You are allowed to grieve and mourn. Most importantly, don’t forget to breathe.

To my future husband.

I was 17 when it happened and the impact from the womb exploding has made it one of about 20 reasons why I will never be able to have children ever again. I am sorry.

I sit on the bed and I listen to the stories of how you will teach your son to play cricket. How to be a gamer worth of the internet, how your daughter will learn to play ballet.She will thave my eyes, your cheek bones and will be an angel.

Never lose hope. I am sorry you had to sacrifice the greatest gift on earth without having the choice to do it. I will never stop trying to make it up to you.

To the girl staring back at me in the mirror.

The stretch marks that now mark your body in places that live as reminders will soon be badges of pride. You will learn how to love yourself with them.

Your hair will frizz and curl in new and exciting ways than before, embrace the crown that frames your face.

The chubby cheeks and the soft edges around your curves is your new and improved body armour. You are a warrior and this is your battle. A battle you have already won.

You are alive and you are breathing.

Cara

“And In That Moment I Swear We Were Infinite” 

Dear friends and other interesting creatures,

Ouma’s room felt calm with soft light… she looked worse and better then I imagined – making no sense at all I am. She is nothing like the woman she use to be, but when I lay down beside her, she took my face in her hands and I felt like heaven had just touched me.

It was the most incredible soft, lingering, tender, loving feeling of adoration that came from her. Sweeping movement of her soft hand on my hair… such comfort I have not felt. She is the one dying and yet I felt she was giving to me… I was enough. I WAS ENOUGH!!

She spoke every now and again a few audible sentences… she said she is happy with the life she has had, that she loves me, that I am a ‘dierbare kind’… she told Noid that she raised me from the time I was one month old… that she was so happy when I was born that she cried for weeks… she said I was her first grandchild and her favourite, she told me over and over again how happy she is to see me, she asked if I was happy with Noid and if we will get married.. she asked me if he will look after me.. she specifically asked to see Kevin.. my heart was sore for him because him and I did this together not so long ago with Oupa…. She said she is so glad that I came, she loves me.. I said I love her and thank you for everything and and and ….and all the while I didn’t want her to stop touching me.  It was the most tender and intense love I have felt in a very long time – as in overwhelming complete peace and contentment – healing. I wanted to drink it in and have it run smoothly inside my body, fill me up with tenderness and love. It was beautiful.

I never want to forget how I felt. Ever.

It does not matter to me what is physically wrong with my gran. I don’t mind her dying because I saw her LIVE.  I don’t know if she will be with us for a few more hours, days or weeks… I feel content in knowing that she loves me and that I love her and that’s enough. I will miss her so much, but I am so glad she was my Ouma Chrissie… and the person who I slept next to, holding her hand for the first eleven years of my life.

When we got home, I lay in the darkness. Craving the silence, seeking that contentment, I climbed under the dovet in an effort to feel more ‘protected’ – snug – a hug almost .. . I closed my eyes and pretended the fan was raindrops and that I could almost smell the cinnamon from the pancakes.

As the wind blew the curtain, I hoped there was a life after this one… one in which Ouma will find Oupa waiting and they will once again walk hand in hand as they did for 57 years.

“Love is stronger than death even though it can’t stop death from happening, but no matter how hard death tries it can’t separate people from love. It can’t take away our memories either. In the end, life is stronger than death.” – Unknown

Written 11 Feb 2009… Ouma died on the 7th of March 2009, and was buried on this day, 14 March 2009.

I wish you enough,

Wenchy

♡ “And In That Moment I Swear We Were Infinite” is a memorable quote from the 1999 coming-of-age novel “The Perks of Being a Wallflower” by Stephen Chbosky. It is one of my favourite books ever.♡

Bacon.  The story of a pig. 

Dear friends and other interesting creatures, 

It started when the x person and I bought a house just after my 18th birthday. I realised I could have a party! 

Hosting a party carried on into my second marriage, where it became more church and family focussed. Gatherings,  afternoon teas and surprise parties.  I remember my (step)  Dad’s dad,  Oupa Bert saying I was the most gracious hostess ever and what a treat it was to visit. 

My childrens birthday parties were well attended,  every detail perfectly planned celebrations. As soon as a party was finished,  the birthday boy or girl would start planning their next birthday party. It was something I excelled at. I loved it. 

Then the sickness came.  May 2011. 

Since our move from estate living, where the river ran through it, to urban living in an area for the newly weds and the nearly deads, @SirNoid and I had totally stopped entertaining at home. 

Our previous residence saw me effortlessly inviting fifty of our closest friends for a catered chef cooked meal to perfectly cooked steaks by the resident chef, @SirNoid. 

Any reason I could ever come up with would warrant a dinner party.  My Mammie said to me she has no idea from whom I got this “let’s entertain!” flair from, but I loved it. My Mammie is a very private person and doesn’t need people the way I do. 

The only thing I miss about having a big house with a garden to groom and a pool to keep blue, is the space to entertain. 

Yet….. Do I want a big house again? I don’t think so. The rain would have turned the garden into a jungle and the pool into a swamp. I did not enjoy having to colour chart those things.  

I love that we can pretty much “lock up and go”. I have no security fears where we live. We have enough space not to share a bathroom, and @SirNoid still has a “man cave” to smoke in. 

Now our entertainment is meeting our friends at restaurants (without play areas). Watching a football match in a pub and drinks before a show. Movies and arranged events. 

The circle of life. The difference between raising a family and being a couple in the urban jungle? 

Oh yes. I need to buy bacon. 

I wish you enough, 

Wenchy 

Some walks you take alone. 

Dear Kev, Liam James and Victoria, 

It was Mother’s Day. Taken during a time I never want to revisit. Yet, we somewhat smiling. We always did try. 

As a person, but specifically as your Mom, my faults are immense. Some of my actions over many years,  I cannot comprehend or explain, yet you have loved me. You have tried to understand, when I myself could not.

The days I shouted instead of listening, when I was preoccupied instead of present, fell apart instead of being strong, put what I thought I wanted before what you needed – I am deeply sorry. My regrets are many. 

You have been my joy and celebration in life. You have been an anchor I do not think I always deserve. 

You have not had an easy life. Especially Kev who as the eldest, had to experience my every flaw. Two divorces, three marriages, expectations met and dreams broken. You have overcome and I am very proud of each of you for very different reasons. 

I always wanted to be a Mom. Always. I wish I had known how totally unprepared I was… or how inadequate I would still feel sometimes now. 

Some walks I have had to take alone, as it should be. 
While life may not always have been cookies from scratch, jungle gyms and laughter…. know that I have always loved you and that nothing you do could ever make me not love you in abundance. 

You may not always have liked me, but you have always loved me… that relationship dynamic kinda folds back on itself. Forever we are linked. Always interchanging. 

I miss you all so much today there is a physical ache in my chest. You growing up was never a thought. What happened Peter Pan?

I love you more than Strawberry Pops and Country Music. 

Nancy, Mother, Momma 💜

Watch “In the Heart of the Sea” on @mnetmovies NOW! 

Dear friends and other interesting creatures, 

I have a hamper of goodies for the M-net Sunday night movie tonight, “ In the Heart of the Sea ” to give away! 

In 1820, crewmen (Chris Hemsworth, Benjamin Walker, Cillian Murphy) aboard the New England vessel Essex face a harrowing battle for survival when a whale of mammoth size and strength attacks with force, crippling their ship and leaving them adrift in the ocean. Pushed to their limits and facing storms, starvation, panic and despair, the survivors must resort to the unthinkable to stay alive. Their incredible tale ultimately inspires author Herman Melville to write “Moby-Dick.”
Answer the follow question:  Which book did Herman Melville write,  inspired by the tale depicted in the movie?

Please enter the competition in the comment section below with a proper  e-mail address and the correct answer to the above. 🐳 Entries close on Wednesday evening! 

I wish you enough, 
Wenchy 

Darkness my peculiar friend.

Dear friends and other interesting creatures,

Being afraid of the dark did not come with Pappie’s death in 1984. I’d never been comfortable in the dark. I feared what I could not see.

Growing up with my Ouma Chrissie and my Oupa Mike I slept next to my Ouma on a mattress on the floor. She would hold my hand until she fell asleep. It had nothing to do with poverty or lack of space. My Ouma had grown up in an orphanage and without meaning any harm, projected her need for comfort onto me. A co-dependant, very loving and caring relationship followed. She said the day I was born was the happiest day of her life. Imagine being loved so deeply.

The passage light was always left on at night. Oupa Mike got up at 3am daily to leave to work on the mine. His former racing pigeon clock stood in the passage on the floor so he could see it from the bed. There was no alarm, but Oupa always left on time.

With pride I am the keeper of the much loved clock in my family.

On windy nights I could hear the door going into the garage workspace banging. It scared me. I asked Oupa why he doesn’t fix the banging door. Oupa winked and said the door isn’t worrying anyone, so why am I worrying about the door? It was the wind that was my problem, not the door. 🙄

After Pappie died and I came to live with my Mammie and my sister in the city, the darkness held new fears. I was eleven years old. I desperately wanted to dream about Pappie, I didnt want to forget him, but was petrified he would appear to me at night. Like a ghost. I was scared my Mammie may die and I did not know how to reach my Grandparents. Life as I knew it, had changed forever.

A lot of therapy and money later I now know that the feelings I experienced was quite normal for a child of my age.

It was the first time in my life I had to sleep in my own room. My anxiety intensified. Every day held new experiences in the big city of gold. All I wanted was to go home! There was no return, so I had to cope and thrive …. and quickly.

I didn’t tell anyone about my feelings. I didn’t want to be a problem. My Mammie was heartbroken over my Pappie’s death. It is only now as an adult that I realised she was only 30 years old at the time! They were so young.

My sleeping habits didn’t improve. Instead of the banging door and counting the hours on Oupa’s clock, I now listened to the muffled sound of my Mammie crying. It was not a good time for anyone.

I’m 43 years old now. My anxiety remains my most faithful companion, but I’m no longer afraid of the dark. The darkness is now a place to hide tears, a space I can think my thoughts without an audience. Somehow the dark holds a sacred silence… weird because the inner city life is alive at all hours.

I don’t know why it changed exactly. I think it was when my Oupa Mike died, very peacefully of old age, almost a decade ago.

Standing next to.his open grave, I clearly remember thinking, this was my worst day. If I can make it through that day, I can face any day, or night that followed.

It is only now, when a lie awake in the dark of night while my mind wonders and visit the triumphs in my life, the dissapointments and often the self loathing for things I cannot forgive myself for, that I know the sun will rise again.

The night is only so long.

I wish you enough

Wenchy