Book Review: Lost Daughter by Ali Mercer

Dear friends and other interesting creatures,

Lost Daughter is the story of three very different women who join a support group where they are the only members. They are separated from their children for very real and emotional taxing reasons.

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The main storyline concentrates on Rachel. Rachel is separated from her artist husband and they have a teenage daughter. There are insinuations that Rachel had done something so horrid that she is trusted to only sees her daughter on a Saturday Her estranged husband appears to make all decisions regarding their child. There are many references to Rachel’s mental health and how this influences her ability to care for her child.

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Mishandel, misbruik, misken by Carla van der Spuy

Mishandel, misbruik, miskenMishandel, misbruik, misken by Carla van der Spuy

My rating: 2 of 5 stars

I often receive books for review from publishers or authors but this book, I purchased. I was wondering why I have not heard anything about it, not a whisper. Now I know why.

Like other South Africans I have read the story of Joey Haarhoff and Gert van Rooyen in newspapers for many years. They are suspected of abducting and killing six teenage girls in 1988/1989. Gert very cowardly shot Joey before killing himself before police could arrest them. Were it not for these names I would not have purchased a copy of the book.

There is no doubt that Amor van der Westhuyzen had a horrific, abusive childhood and that it would manifest itself in many ways as she became an adult. That said, for me, the book lacked substance. At some point Amor picks up on a behavioural science of placing people into boxes based on behaviour and it appears that she believes this as black and white truth. Later, the reading of what people’s characteristics are according to their physical appearance was actually laughable and irritated me immensely.

I am sincerely happy for Amor van der Westhuyzen that she has faced her demons and that she is living a happy life within a successful marriage and has her own business. Sadly, this book will only be purchased because of the fascination the public remains to have with Joey Haarhoff and Gert van Rooyen.

I have just purchased another book written by Carla van der Spuy, so my disappointment in the book is not with the author. I think she did the best she could with the content she had to work with.

I wish you enough,

Wenchy

A book where fiction, raw truth and courage meet.

Umbilicus: An autobiographical novelUmbilicus: An autobiographical novel by Paula Gruben
My rating: 4 of 5 stars

The character, Charlotte and I are roughly the same age. I could identify with the person, the culture, the language and what living in South Africa was like as a teenager growing up during the time period the book is written in.

Many of us question who we are, what we are about, what are our details? .. and what am I going to be when I grow up? Charlotte is no different, except that Charlotte knows she is adopted and therefore has some extra questions that need answers.

I found Charlotte to be a strong character, honest about her weaknesses and flaws and open to forgiveness and truth. Charlotte’s adoptive parents showed a little less emotion than I expected to the subject matter. They seem emotionally unavailable and cold to her needs throughout the book and I questioned why they adopted two children at all.

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A Transgender Life

Dear friends and other interesting creatures,

On the evening of the launch,  I purchased a copy of Anastacia Thomson’s book,  “A Transgender Life in South Africa” .

The book is a first hand account of a woman, who was assigned male at birth, due to external genitalia.

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5 Night Plan: A guide to strong and grounded relationships – REVIEW

5 Night Plan: A guide to strong and grounded relationships

Rich Simmonds’s 5 Night plan, truly does holds up an honest mirror in the face of relationships. Embrace the view.

– Dr Steve Maraboli New York, USA

Rich Simmonds 5 Night Plan suggests a fresh perspective on relationships and how to approach a potential long-term, concrete romantic relationship.

Personally I think the book is more suited to adults in their 30’s who is tired of wasting time dating, hoping to find “the one” and start their happily ever after. What I really loved about the book is that even in an established relationship, the topics written about is relevant regardless if you are in the beginning stages of getting to know a potential partner, or perhaps need to kick-start a long-term love.

Rich Simmonds is a gifted communicator and a master when it comes to emotional intelligence in my opinion. Reading about consistency, quality time, communication, trust, commitment, forgiveness and my favourite chapter that deals with “My intentions, your perception” is all aspects we should apply in our daily lives. We would be happier for it!

The 5 Night Plan does not get a four star rating from me because I am mentioned in the acknowledgement section. The book has nuggets of gold hidden in 86 pages. It is the kind of book where I use a soft pencil and underline in purple the parts that speak to my heart.

If you want to challenge your thinking and are in the dating game especially, or your relationship has fallen flat – read the book.

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5 Night Plan is available both in print and on Kindle.

I wish you enough,

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