Paint your picture blue and grey.

Dear friends and other interesting creatures,

I posted this exactly a year ago, and wanted to share it with you again as it reminds me how important writing is to me. Not stats, not the correct hashtag, but real and raw – me.

I wish you enough,

The Nocturnal Wenchy

Dear friends and other interesting creatures,


It’s 3am.

While desperately trying to slow dance with the moon,  it is not meeting my gaze long enough for me to choose the song. There is no dancing me to the end of love.

Elusive urban skies. The same urban jungle that bring me a strange comfort, has the ability to swallow me whole … but alas I shall not go quietly into this dark night.

My body is betraying me as I rise and fall with the raw,  prolonged pain running from the soles of my feet to my neck. 

Lingering like a lovers touch in the small of my back,  slowly drawing me in. I close my eyes for we have played this game before. I know how this plays out.

Meeting in the middle of my shoulder blades a sharp, stabbing pain reminds me love is not always patient, nor…

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The River 

The summers were sweltering. Walking towards a braai fire to greet you, I remember the extra warmth of the fire clearly. I remember your smile and the true happiness as we said hello.

You had clearly already started the Merry part of Christmas. I expected nothing less. You always were more of a bottle than a glass kind of guy. The Vaal river was running strong behind the trees and it soothed our souls. 

I hear the laughter coming from the kitchen. Hands clapping. My face exploding in a smile as I enter the house and I know I had been spotted. Hugs so pure and with such delight that it had the power to raise the dead. 

All was well in the world.

Even if contact was broken over long periods of time, I always knew you loved me, as I loved you. It was a rare connection. 

I think of you and the river, with a hole in my heart, a tear in my eye and a smile playing on my lips as I close my eyes. I’m a “monkey’s wedding”. Raining with sunshine.

Since you left this earth earlier this year, I’ve been more aware of you. Somehow you are closer. I’ve told nobody for the fear of sounding more absurd than usual. Maybe I needed the shoulder to lean on. Thank you for lingering.

Even though we both know you were not an angel, I felt safe knowing you are in my world. The landscape is forever changed.

I know now that the river had nothing to do with soothing our souls. It was the people that surrounded us with their love, acceptance and our sense of belonging. The laughter, catching fish and swimming with frogs is gone. Those hugs that could raise the dead, has died. 

Just as we were, in that moment, we were enough.
Stel x

PS. “Jy weet mos”. 

Relax..then do it.

Dear friends and other interesting creatures,

​Would love to read your answers.

1. Are you named after someone? Yes, my Ouma Chrissie and my Oupa Mike. Christel-Michel I have always loved my name as I adored my Grandparents.

The little girl me.

2. When is the last time you cried? Yesterday, seeing my 20 year old son, Liam James after four months, I made an ugly cry face. I was so incredibly happy.

My Liam James and I

3. Do you like your handwriting? Not anymore. Ankolysing Spondylitis  is affecting my hands and sometimes it hurts to write. 

4. What is your favorite lunch meat? Ham with a pinch of English mustard.

5. Do you have any children? Many ! The original cast that I grew my own self is Kev  (23) Liam James  (20) and Victoria  (17).. then Nicholas  (26), Douglas (16) and Jenna-Lee (13) is my children gained when I married @SirNoid. He gained Kyle (23) and Kyla (23). …. on then I have #wenchyskids all over the Internet.  💜 @SirNoid says I collect kids.

7. Do you use sarcasm? Sarcasm is the poor man’s wit, so no.

8. Do you still have your tonsils? Nope.

9. Would you bungee jump? Medically, my well paid rheumatologist would kick my ass … and personally I think my breasts would knock me out. So …. no!

10. What is your favorite kind of cereal? Strawberry Pops which I have not had in about two years.

11. Do you untie your shoes when you take them off? No. I’m often barefoot. I don’t like shoes. 

12. Do you think you are strong?  Physically I was much stronger 20 years ago. Mentally and psychologically I know I am stronger than what I give myself credit for.

13. What is your favorite ice cream? @HaagenDazs_SA Pralines and cream 

#HDHealthyOption @HaagenDazs_SA

14. What is the first thing you notice about people? If their smile reaches their eyes.

15. Football or Rugby? Football. #YNWA

16. What is the least favorite thing you like about yourself? My stomach. Hate it.

17. What color pants are you wearing now? Jean pant colout

18. What was the last thing you ate? An apple round midnight.

19. What are you listening to right now? Birds, cars, city type noise.

20. If you were a crayon, what color would you be? Purple.

21. Favorite Flavour? Caramel

22. Who was the last person you spoke to on the phone?  Victoria’s bae, Jeandré 

Jeandré & Victoria

23. Favorite sport to watch? Tour De France, Football #YNWA and Formula One.
24. What is your hair colour? Purple 💜


25. Eye color? Brown
27. Favorite food to eat? Pork Belly at the moment.

28. Scary movies or happy endings? Happy endings 

29. Last movie you watched? The Martian

I wish you enough,


Celebrity Chefs Table Hosted at DAVINCI Hotel & Suites

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Originally posted on Legacy Hotels:
Ten celebrity guests were treated to a unique chefs table dinner at the DAVINCI Hotel & Suites hosted on Saturday, 3 December 2016, hosted by Executive Chef Sylvester Nair. Guests were welcomed in Maxim Lounge with a taste of an Afropolitan Cocktail paired with smokey oysters.  Guests were then escorted to the…

Cruelty free.

Dear friends and other interesting creatures,

I received a press release with information I thought some of you may be interested in.

I’m love Sorbet, and do want to keep my readers in the loop. Unfortunately my happy place of beauty, Sorbet Fourways does not have a Sorbet Drybar  but the therapists at Sorbet Killarney Mall is lovely. In a moment of need, it is a quick in and out and you look fabulous, without having made an appointment. My daughter Victoria’s hair is super long and very difficult to wash and dry, so for a special occassion it is a great spoil.


Cherry Blossom Flowers Shampoo & Conditioner

I wanted to share with you that PETA have endorsed the Brazilian hair care products from INOAR which you can purchase at your local Sorbet Dry Bar, or online – including the very popular Cherry Blossom Flowers Range.

Instead of animals, INOAR only uses vegetable-based ingredients in their formulations. This is why INOAR has been included in PETA’s list of cruelty free companies.

PETA (People for the Ethical Treatment of Animals) is a nonprofit corporation created in 1980, which has over 5 million members, and is dedicated to animal rights. PETA’s motto reads: “Animals are not ours to eat, wear, experiment on, use for entertainment or abuse in any other way.”

Don’t say I don’t keep you informed. 🙂

I wish you enough,


@SirNoid ♡ @NocturnalWenchy 

Who is older?

@SirNoid is older as girls have started calling him “Oom“.  I’m #14forever. You do the math. ♡

How long have you been together? 
Since 12th of January 2008.

Who is the most sensitive? 
I am hyper sensitive and hurt emotionally and physically very easily. I laugh as loudly as I cry.

@SirNoid cries at Disney movies and adverts. I’m not sure if that means he is sensitive or appreciate the performing arts.

Where do you eat out most as a couple? 
Wherever @SirNoid gets invited to join me at a #foodie event, we dining out as a couple! ♡ (Can you feel the lack of budget tonight…? )

@SirNoid has become a #foodie in his own right, especially craft beer. Proud of him

Who has the quick temper? 
Coming from an Italian/ Portuguese background I have a red, hot temper. There is a reason I decided never to own a gun. I would take you out. I would not feel bad.  You clearly needed to go. I learned that lesson during my first marriage.

@SirNoid may have been born in Welkom but his temper matches mine.

Who is more social? 
I’m exceptionally more social the older I get… I care less and less how others feel about me,  which is scary and I started off on a rather low scale.

@SirNoid…  I think depends on the company.

Who is the most stubborn? 
I’m actually not sure. Imagine we had a child!

Who wakes up earlier? 
We both wake up when @SirNoid ‘s alarm goes off.

Do you get flowers often? 

Who is the first one to admit when they’re wrong? 
Me.  @SirNoid is never wrong.

Who has the craziest ex’s? 
There has been some hectic times but thankfully normality has settled.

Who wears the pants in your relationship? 

Who cries more? 
Me.  I am a dramatic art. Dammit.

Who said “I love you” first? 

Who is the better cook? 

Who is more messy? 
I am.

Who’s the best driver? 
Me  when @SirNoid is not in the car. (ha ha😵!)

Who makes the Coffee / Tea? 
I make coffee ☕  in the morning and at night. Something has to be an apology for my crappy cooking right?

BTW, what coffee do YOU buy? 

… against the spirit 

​”I want to live among people who are conscious that we live in a war. A war against life, against the spirit. 

People who don’t pretend to be struggling when it is obvious that what they are doing is turning a battlefield into a garden.

I want to live among people who don’t look down at their feet, or won’t look you in the eyes when you speak of struggle or insurrection, because In their heart they know they have surrendered, and because—maybe, just maybe—they never really hated the system. Among people who have not been bought, who did not take the pills they were offered, because they preferred to struggle with their feeling of pathologized anxiety than to live in the dead zone. People who don’t pretend to be struggling when it is obvious that what they are doing is turning a battlefield into a garden. I want to be in a place where the war is admissible.”
—anonymous Spanish poet


Wenchy x

Cirque Eloize iD – Giveaway!

Dear friends and other interesting people,

Win one of two sets of double tickets (4) to Cirque Eloize iD valid for the performance on Wednesday, 30 November 2016 at 8pm at The Teatro at Montecasino.


Two lucky winners will each grab two seats to this performance on 30 November 2016! Please leave your name and correct e-mail address in the comment section, along with the date the tickets are valid for and my family and I will see you there?

I wish you enough!


oh #HelloBlackFriday 

Dear friends and other interesting creatures,

Happy Thanksgiving to all,  but especially to my friends and family living in the United States which is where this tradition was born.

Vicky and I met at school and have been friends since I was 12. Vix came to live with us a year or so later, and it was tremendous having my best friend become my sister! It has been a gift of friendship, love, support, loyalty, forgiveness, compromise, humour, affection, devotion that keeps on giving, for over 30 years. I love Vicky an intense amount.

Vicky and her husband, Russ and my gorgeous niece, Alex and nephew, Drew became proper America citizens last year. They residential on Marco Island in Florida and love the sea and sailing lifestyle.

Russ and Vicky with Drew and Alex.

This was the first election they could vote (ha ha ha!!), today is their first Thanksgiving as America citizens … and their first, smack people out the way #HelloBlackFriday as proper Americans tomorrow.😆

I asked Vicky who has been living  in the land of the free, and going out on #HelloBlackFriday, which appears like where the brave comes in, to tell me more about what #HelloBlackFriday is really like.

Ok Black Friday! You can go line up at most shops from late on Thursday night – Thanksgiving until the shops open on Friday and the shops open at 1:00am in the morning but you would be able to get all sorts of stuff at really special prices!

People has been trampled trying to get into Walmart and now they issue tickets and have a limited amount of the items for sale in the stores…. like you can buy a 60″ TV for a tiny amount but there is only 5 in the store.

Also what is happening, is more and more shops have started offering  sales online as well as have there specials start early e.g. from today (Thursday).

But then if you think you have special deals on Friday….  they also have Cyber Monday! 😀 Bigger and better!

Anyway living here, I have been keeping off buying anything because everything goes on sale on Friday. I have 25 items in my basket for Amazon that I will only buy on Friday, and it’s the best time to buy Christmas gifts!

– Vicky Stephens

Vicky is a yoga fanatic with some amazing moves. Follow her on Instagram. You my just try a pose… #justsaying

I will be checking out #HelloBlackFriday at @RosebankMall who is offering a lucky winner a R200 voucher to spend at @RosebankMall!

I will have some additional #HelloBlackFriday giveaways on my blog tomorrow, so remember to check it out.



Please answer the following question (and make sure to leave your email address for notification of the winner!) in the comment section of my blog.

On which day of the week does #HelloBlackFriday traditionally fall on?

The winner will be announced early on #HelloBlackFriday. 

I wish you enough,